Romance does not have to fizzle out(失败) in long-term relationships and progress into a companionship/friendship-type love, a new study has found. Romantic love can last a lifetime and lead to happier, healthier 1 .
"Many believe that 2 love is the same as passionate(多情的)love," said lead researcher Bianca P. Acevedo, PhD, then at Stony Brook University (currently at University of California, Santa Barbara). "It isn't. Romantic love has the intensity, engagement and sexual chemistry that passionate love has, minus the obsessive component(过度成分). Passionate or obsessive love includes 3 of uncertainty and anxiety. This kind of love 4 drive the shorter relationships but not the longer ones."
These findings 5 in the March issue of Review of General Psychology, published by the American Psychological Association.
Acevedo and co-researcher Arthur Aron, PhD, reviewed 25 studies with 6,070 individuals in short- and long-term relationships to 6 whether romantic love is associated with more satisfaction. To determine this, they 7 the relationships in each of the studies as romantic, passionate (romantic with obsession) or friendship-like love and categorized them as long- or short-term.
The researchers looked at 17 short-term relationship studies, which included 18- to 23-year-old college students who were 8 , dating or married, with the average relationship lasting less than four years. They also 9 at 10 long-term relationship studies including middle-aged couples who were typically married 10 years or more. Two of the 10 ncluded both long- and short-term relationships in which it was possible to distinguish the two samples.
The review found that those who reported greater romantic love were more 11 in both the short- and long-term relationships. Companion-like love was only moderately 12 with satisfaction in both short- and long-term relationships. And those who reported greater passionate love in their relationships were more satisfied in the short term 13 to the long term.
Couples who reported more satisfaction in their relationships also 14 being happier and having higher self-esteem.
Feeling that a partner is "there for you" 15 or a good relationship, Acevedo said, and facilitates(促进) feelings of romantic love. On the other hand, "feelings of insecurity are generally associated with 16 satisfaction, and in some 17 may spark conflict in the relationship. This can manifest(表白) into obsessive love," she said.
This discovery may change people's 18 of what they want in long-term relationships. According to the authors, companionship love, which is what many couples see as the natural 19 of a successful relationship, may be an unnecessary compromise(妥协). "Couples should strive for love with all the trimmings(修剪)," Acevedo said. "And couples who've been together a long time and wish to get back their romantic edge should know it is an attainable(可达到的) goal that, like most good things in life, 20 energy and devotion."
( ) 1. A. scholarships B. friendships C. relationships D. companionships
( ) 2. A. obsessive B. romantic C. passionate D. companion
( ) 3. A. feelings B. factors C. consequences D. barriers
( ) 4. A. contributes B. helps C. prevents D. speeds
( ) 5. A. occur B. take C. write D. appear
( ) 6. A. find out B. work out C. take out D. bring out
( ) 7. A. separated B. classified C. divided D. cut
( ) 8. A. alone B. lonely C. single D. unique
( ) 9. A. glanced B. glared C. stared D. looked
( ) 10. A. findings B. examinations C. experiments D. studies
( ) 11. A. unpleased B. disappointed C. satisfied D. desperate
( ) 12. A. referred B. associated C. contended D. conflicted
( ) 13. A. compared B. comparing C. added D. led
( ) 14. A. reported B. said C. believed D. hoped
( ) 15. A. takes B. makes C. means D. depends
( ) 16. A. higher B. lower C. no D. much
( ) 17. A. environments B. states C. air D. cases
( ) 18. A. views B. expectations C. remarks D. statements
( ) 19. A. progression B. change C. results D. choice
( ) 20. A. produces B. satisfies C. requires D. consumes
The car, running along the welllit road now sank in darkness. I broke the ____ on purpose, ____ that the driver was too tired to drive. “When do you go back home in the evening?” “9 o'clock after this ____.” “Then when do you come out in the morning?” I ____ another question. “9 o'clock, too—just as if I worked at an office.” His ____ surprised me, because every time I ride a taxi, what I ____ from the driver are only complaints that they have to work from morning till night, it's hard to earn money, they're often ____ by the police, or that their leaders are seated lazily, ____ the fruits. But this driver told me, “I find it ____ to be a section chief as I was before. I like driving just for ____. It's fortunate that I hardly drive ____ a passenger. So I earn two or three thousand yuan a month with ease. Yes, I never ____ an empty taxi. If it goes southward, I go northward. If it goes along a____, I turn into a narrow street...”
His words showed his ____ with his life and the pride he ____ in his job. Such feelings are so rare among people nowadays as oxygen in high ____. As an ancient saying goes, “Neither joy in material ____ nor grieve (悲痛) over personal setbacks.” How many people nowadays can show high ideals by ____ living and go far with a calm mind? I couldn't help feeling ____ when finding such a state of mind in a stranger on a cold ____.
A.window B.stillness C.silence D.quietness
A.on condition B.for fear C.in belief D.in order
A.night B.trip C.cycle D.process
A.threw out B.gave away C.made up D.led to
A.character B.confidence C.attitude D.easiness
A.suffer B.request C.benefit D.hear
A.detected B.ordered C.fined D.seized
A.keeping B.tasting C.enjoying D.choosing
A.exciting B.disappointing C.tiring D.amazing
A.freedom B.pleasure C.hobby D.company
A.without B.with C.behind D.beside
A.follow B.admire C.envy D.meet
A.route B.path C.railway D.highway
A.intelligence B.satisfaction C.competition D.honesty
A.made B.held C.caught D.took
A.buildings B.mountains C.standard D.heaven
A.gains B.concerns C.supports D.loss
A.special B.happy C.simple D.original
A.angry B.content C.dangerous D.curious
A.morning B.night C.moment D.season
Lilly was a French Canadian girl who grew up in the farming community.When she was 16,her father____her to drop out of school to contribute to the family income.With English as her second language and____education,the____didn’t look bright for Lilly.
Lilly’s father was a stubborn man who____took “no” for an answer.He____Lilly to find a job.With small hope of gaining____,each day she would just ride to the city,walk____about and return home at dusk.
On one of her____,Lilly saw a sign at a big company.__ __,she knocked on the very first door.In her____English,Lilly told the office manager she was interested in the secretarial position.The manager ____to give the girl a chance.He directed her to type a letter,and then____.Lilly looked at the clock and saw it was 11∶40 am.She thought everyone would be leaving for____at noon,when she could____away in the crowd.But she knew she should____the letter.
On her first try,Lilly____one line of five words and made four mistakes.On her second attempt,she completed a full paragraph,but still made many mistakes.She looked at the clock:11∶55—five minutes to____.Just then the manager walked in.He came directly to Lilly,read the letter and said,“Lilly,you’re doing____work!”
With those simple words of encouragement,her desire to escape disappeared and her____began to grow.Lilly thought,“Well,if he thinks it’s good,then it must be good.I think I’ll stay!” Lilly did stay—all because someone had given a____and uncertain girl the gift of selfconfidence when she knocked on the door.
A.reminded B.forced C.encouraged D.helped
A.poor B.formal C.good D.modern
A.advice B.promise C.future D.change
A.always B.usually C.sometimes D.rarely
A.warned B.told C.allowed D.begged
A.employment B.experience C.judgment D.independence
A.carefully B.happily C.aimlessly D.rapidly
A.steps B.trips C.purposes D.choices
A.Bravely B.Proudly C.Calmly D.Cautiously
A.broken B.perfect C.written D.fluent
A.refused B.decided C.pretended D.failed
A.stopped B.continued C.left D.sighed
A.lunch B.life C.fun D.luck
A.break B.slip C.pass D.drive
A.read B.write C.attempt D.deliver
A.went over B.picked up C.gave away D.got through
A.freedom B.success C.discussion D.reward
A.terrible B.excellent C.honest D.easy
A.belief B.patience C.confidence D.strength
A.shy B.lonely C.selfless D.modest
It was the summer of my freshman year of college. Instead of heading home for a nice long , my friends and I had decided to and take some extra courses. We had the top floor of an old house to live in. My bed was into a stuffy(闷热的)former laundry room and each night was a new in humidity. Still, it felt
to be in my own place for the first time. After the first few weeks, , the thrill faded and set in. I found myself sitting alone each night my home and my parents.
My summer holidays had always been a time. I spent hours playing basketball and swimming. I talked to my Mom while she tended her flowers. I helping my Dad drag firewood for the winter. And every night I sat at a dinner table full of delicious food with love while my family filled the room with the sound of sweet . Now I found myself missing them than ever.
Finally when my were at their lowest, I heard a at the door. I opened it and was to see my parents standing there with big smiles to fill my heart and a box full of food to feed my hungry friends. We spent the afternoon eating, on each other’s news, and just being together. It felt so good, and I felt so loved.
Victor Hugo wrote that, “The supreme happiness of life is the that one is loved; loved for oneself, or better yet, loved despite oneself. ”It was that gift of happiness that my parents gave me that afternoon and every day of my life.
A.journey B.term C.break D.way
A.leave B.stay C.relax D.travel
A.rented B.bought C.painted D.repaired
A.made B.changed C.jammed D.hidden
A.wish B.pleasure C.experiment D.adventure
A.exciting B.boring C.astonishing D.moving
A.anyway B.though C.therefore D.instead
A.headache B.loneliness C.satisfaction D.homesickness
A.forgetting about B.relying on C.thinking of D.referring to
A.special B.terrible C.specific D.difficult
A.gave up B.had trouble in C.put off D.took pride in
A.frozen B.prepared C.tasted D.kept
A.laughter B.scream C.whistle D.sigh
A.less B.more C.worse D.better
A.minds B.dreams C.spirits D.thoughts
A.kick B.hit C.crash D.knock
A.disappointed B.surprised C.puzzled D.encouraged
A.hungry B.open C.sick D.gentle
A.making up B.getting up C.catching up D.taking up
A.sign B.chance C.secret D.belief
A year ago, I paid no attention to English idioms(成语), though my teacher told us the importance again and again.But ___ the importance of English idioms was shown in an interesting experience.
One day I happened to meet an Englishman on the road,and soon we began to talk. As I was talking about how I was studying English, he seemed to be ___ by gently shaking his head,shrugging (耸肩) his shoulders, saying,“You don't say!You don't say!”I was puzzled.I thought,“Perhaps this is ___ a good topic.”I had ___ change the topic.So I said to him, “Well, shall we talk about the Great Wall? ___ , have you ever ____ there?”“Certainly,everyone ____ home will laugh at me if I leave China without seeing ____.” He was deep in thought when I began to talk ____ a guide.“The Great Wall is one of the wonders in the world. We are very ____ of it.”Soon I was interrupted again by his order—“You don't say!”I ___ help asking,“____ do you ask me not to talk about it?”“Well, I didn't ask you ___ so,”He answered,greatly ____.I said,“Didn't you say ‘you don't say’?”____ this, the English ____ to tears.He began to ____,“‘You don't say' actually means really. It is an ____ of surprise. Perhaps you don't pay attention to English idioms.”___ then did I know I had made a fool of ___.Since then I have been more careful with idioms.
A.rapidly B.very fast C.soon D.quickly
A.tired B.moved C.interested D.amazed
A.just B.only C.not D.really
A.rather B.better C.never D.like
A.Excuse me B.Tell me C.After all D.By the way
A.gone B.visited C.seen D.been
A.from B.back C.with D.in
A.it B.them C.anything D.something
A.as B.to C.with D.like
A.glad B.satisfied C.proud D.found
A.couldn't B.wouldn't C.shouldn't D.mustn't
A.How B.When C.Why D.Where
A.doing B.to do C.making D.to make
A.encouraged B.frightened C.pleased D.surprised
A.Heard B.To hear C.Hearing D.Listening
A.laughed B.cried C.was moved D.was touched
A.explain B.shout C.prove D.say
A.experience B.expression C.explanation D.example
A.From B.Since C.By D.Only
A.me B.myself C.mine D.somebody
The Quiet Hero
It was Mother's Day, the day we celebrate everything about mothers and everything we do.But I'll ____ that Sunday in 1996 was bitter and sweet for me.As a single mother I ____ to think of my shortcomings—how many evenings I couldn't spend with my children,and how many things I couldn't ____ my waitress's salary to buy.
But what ____ kids I had!My daughter Maria was a senior in college and Denny was at home from his freshman year at Harvard University.They were ___ impolite enough to complain,but there were so much more I ____ I had done for them.I just hoped they ____.
As I walked into the ____ quietly to start breakfast,I was greeted by a vase ___ a dozen red roses!When had Denny possibly slipped down to leave them?But even their delicate beauty was overshadowed by the note sitting beside them,in the quick,manly ____ of an eighteenyearold.It was about a story that happened between Denny and me long ago.It ____:...she took a day off from her busy ____ to take the boy to see his hero in the flesh at the stadium.It took 3.5 hours just to get there,and they had to be there early ____ he could see his hero take batting practice.___ their arrival,she took her hardearned money to buy an overpriced Tshirt on which was ____ his hero making a diving catch.After the game,of course he had to ___ his hero's signature,so she stayed with the little boy ____ one o'clock in the morning...
It took me long enough to ___ it,but I finally know who the ____ hero is.Mom,I love you!
And suddenly,it was a ___ Mother's Day,after all.
A.admit B.adopt C.deny D.refuse
A.intended B.liked C.tended D.hesitated
A.stress B.spare C.strengthen D.spend
A.poor B.great C.faithless D.pretty
A.merely B.usually C.never D.often
A.wished B.hoped C.expected D.desired
A.supported B.understood C.approved D.disgusted
A.livingroom B.kitchen C.bedroom D.study
A.including B.containing C.possessing D.pinning
A.handwriting B.description C.tone D.scratch
A.wrote B.recorded C.memorized D.read
A.event B.content C.schedule D.circumstance
A.or B.for C.but D.so
A.At B.In C.On D.By
A.impressed B.printed C.presented D.pressed
A.buy B.abandon C.get D.swap
A.before B.until C.after D.when
A.see B.hear C.realize D.tell
A.actual B.true C.imaginary D.visual
A.sad B.bitter C.happy D.exciting