Many of us spend a great deal of time and energy trying to prove that we are right-and others are wrong. Many people believe that it’s their job to 36 others how their positions, statements, and points of view are 37 , and that in doing so, the person they are correcting is going to somehow 38 it, or at least learn something. Wrong!
Think about it. Have you ever been 39 by someone and said to him, “Thank you so much for showing me that I’m wrong and you’re right.”? Or, has anyone you know ever 40 you when you corrected them, or made yourself “right” at their 41 ? Of course not. The truth is, all of us 42 to be corrected. We all want our positions to be 43 and understood by others. Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest 44 of the human heart. And those who learn to 45 are the most loved and respected. Those who are in the 46 of correcting others are often resented and 47 .
A wonderful way for becoming more peaceful and loving is to practise 48 others the joy of being right- give them the glory. 49 correcting. When someone says, “I really feel it’s important to\:”, rather than jumping 50 and saying, “No, it’s more important to…:”, simply let it go and allow their statement to 51 . The people in your life will become less defensive and more 52 . They will appreciate you more than you could ever have 53. You’ll discover the joy of joining in and witnessing other people’s 54 , which is far more rewarding than a battle of egos (自我). Starting today, let others be “ 55 ”, most of the time?
36.A.show B.ask C.prove D.teach
37.A.unimportant B.unbelievable C.incorrect D.imperfect
38.A.consider B.appreciate C.understand D.refuse
39.A.fooled B.helped C.taught D.corrected
40.A.thanked B.rewarded C.cared D.accepted
41.A.side B.price C.expense D.cost
42.A.like B.hate C.prefer D.afford
43.A.admired B.received C.realized D.respected
44.A.shortcomings B.advantages C.desires D.wishes
45.A.talk B.praise C.help D.listen
46.A.habit B.form C.position D.purpose
47.A.punished B.avoided C.left D.scolded
48.A.letting B.lending C.allowing D.owing
49.A.Stop B.Continue C.Practise D.Try
50.A.out B.up C.in D.off
51.A.last B.go C.work D.stand
52.A.helpful B.loving C.careful D.popular
53.A.dreamed B.wanted C.asked D.demanded
54.A.sufferings B.worries C.successs D.happiness
55.A.happy B.right C.sorry D.proud
Parents’ blessing will play a great part in the growth of their children. My father wrote me a valuable letter before his death, one part of which always 36 . “I know you will do 37 great that will set you among the very best one day in the future.”
Since I first read his 38 at 12, they have lived in my heart. 39 ,I knew that my dad’s believing in me gave me permission to believe in 40 . “You will do something great.” He didn’t know 41 that would mean, but whenever I felt 42 of myself, I remember my father’s words, and 43 he were here, so I could ask, “Is this what you were 44 about, Dad?”
Many years have passed, and I believe that my father 45 have been proud when I 46 from basic training and became a rescue swimmer. Lately, I’ve come to realize he’d want me to move 47 to what comes next: to be proud of, and believe in someone else.
Yes, it’s time to all of us to 48 writing our own letters to our children. They look to us with the same 49 . “Is this it, Daddy? Am I doing fine?” It’s why every child growing up says, “Watch me!” Our children don’t 50 because they are not afraid to fail. They are only afraid of failing 51___.
Remember to give your children 52 to succeed. If you don’t have children, then write a letter to someone who53 you. They are waiting for you to believe in them. Trust me, love will be 54 real and their belief in themselves will be greater if you write the words on their hearts: “ 55 ! You will do something great.” Not having that blessing from someone they love may be the only thing holding them back.
A.picks out B.shows out C.stands out D.turns out
A.everything B.nothing C.anything D.something
A.sentences B.letter C.words D.message
A.Growing up B.Turning up C.Bringing up D.Taking up
A.himself B.myself C.itself D.themselves
A.who B.how C.which D.what
A.disappointed B.active C.proud D.upset
A.hoped B.wished C.expected D.thought
A.talking B.doubting C.dreaming D.discussing
A.might B.would C.will D.must
A.graduated B.recovered C.appeared D.survived
A.up B.on C.away D.in
A.stop B.keep C.start D.continue
A.demand B.response C.desire D.question
A.hold on B.keep on C.hold back D.take back
A.us B.him C.you D.tm
A.impression B.direction C.explanation D.permission
A.looks through B.looks down on C.looks up to D.looks forward to
A.more B.less C.much D.little
A.Watch out B.Never fear C.Take it easy D.Never mind.
It was raining. I went into a café and asked for a coffee. 36 I was waiting for my drink, I realized that there were other people in the place, but I sensed 37 . I saw their bodies, but I couldn't feel their souls 38 their souls belonged to the 39 .
I stood up and walked between the tables. When I came to the biggest computer, I saw a thin, small man 40in front of it. "I'm Steve", he finally answered after I asked him a couple of times what his name was. "I can't talk with you. I'm 41 ", he said. He was chatting online with somebody--probably someone he didn't know--and, at the same time, he was playing a computer game--a war game. I was surprised. He was chatting online and, 42 , he was playing a computer game—a war game. I was 43 .
Why didn't Steve want to talk with me? I tried 44 to speak to that computer geek (怪人), 45 not a word came out of his mouth. I touched his shoulder, but no reaction(反应). I was 46 . I put my hand in front of the monitor, and he started to shout, " 47 !"
I took a few steps back, wondering if all those people in the café were looking at me. I ___48 , and saw nobody showed any interest.
49 , I realized that the people there were having a nice conversation with their machines, not with people. They were more 50 having a relationship with the ___51 , particularly Steve. I wouldn't want to 52 the future of human beings if they preferred sharing their lives with machines 53 with people.
I was worried and I sank in my thoughts. I didn't even 54 that the coffee was bad,55 Steve didn't notice there was a person next to him.
A.Before B.Since C.Although D.While
A.pain B.loneliness C.sadness D.fear
A.because B.when C.until D.unless
A.home B.world C.Net D.Cafe
A.sleeping B.laughing C.sitting D.learning
A.busy B.thirsty C.tired D.sick
A.first of all B.just then C.at the same time D.by that time
A.surprised B.delighted C.moved D.frightened
A.once B.again C.first D.even
A.but B.so C.if D.or
A.excited B.respected C.afraid D.unhappy
A.Shut up B.Enjoy yourself C.Leave me alone D.Help me out
A.walked about B.walked out C.raised my hand D.raised my head
A.From then on B.At that moment C.In all D.Above all
A.interested in B.tired of C.careful about D.troubled by
A.computer B.soul C.shop D.geek
A.tell B.plan C.imagine D.design
A.other than B.instead of C.except for D.as well as
A.pretend B.understand C.insist D.realize
A.as if B.just as C.just after D.even though
In the clinic, I asked if Michael could be retested, so the specialist tested him again. To my ___1___, it was the same score.
Later that evening, I ___2___ told Frank what I had learned that day. After talking it over, we agree that we knew our ___3___ much better than an IQ test. We ___4___ that Michael’s score must have been a ___5___ and we should treat him ___6___ as usual.
We moved to Indiana in 1962, and Michael studied at Concordia High School in the same year. He got ___7___ grades in the school, especially ___8___ biology and chemistry, which was a great comfort.
Michael ___9___ Indiana University in 1965 as a pre-medical student, soon afterwards, his teachers permitted him to take more courses than ___10___. In 1968, he was accepted by the School of Medicine, Yale University.
On graduation day in 1972, Frank and I ___11___ the ceremony at Yale. After the ceremony, we told Michael about the ___12___ IQ score he got when he was six. Since that day, Michael sometimes would look at us and say ___13___, “My dear mom and dad never told me that I couldn’t be a doctor, not until after I graduated from medical school!” It is his special way of thanking us for the ___14___ we had in him.
Interestingly, Michael then ___15___ another IQ test. We went to the same clinic where he had __16___ the test eighteen years before. This time Michael scored 126, an increase of 36 points. A result like that was supposed to be ___17___.
Children often do as ___18___ as what adults, particularly parents and teachers, ___19___ of them. That is, tell a child he is “ ___20___”, and he may play the role of a foolish child.
A.joy B.surprise C.dislike D.disappointment
A.tearfully B.fearfully C.cheerfully D.hopefully
A.student B.son C.friend D.doctor
A.argued B.realized C.decided D.understood
A.specially B.strictly C.naturally D.carefully
A.poor B.good C.average D.standard
A.in B.about C.of D.for
A.visited B.chose C.passed D.entered
A.allowed B.described C.required D.offered
A.missed B.held C.delayed D.attended
A.high B.same C.low D.different
A.curiously B.eagerly C.calmly D.jokingly
A.faith B.interest C.pride D.delight
A.looked for B.asked for C.waited for D.prepared for
A.received B.accepted C.organized D.discussed
A.imperfect B.impossible C.uncertain D.unsatisfactory
A.honestly B.much C.well D.bravely
A.hear B.learn C.expect D.speak
A.wise B.rude C.shy D.stupid
Several years ago, while attending a communication course, I experienced a most unusual process. The instructor asked us to list__36__ in our past that we felt __37__ of, regretted, or incomplete about and read our lists aloud.
This seemed like a very __38__ process, but there’s always some __39__soul in the crowd who will volunteer. The instructor then __40__ that we find ways to __41__ people, or take some action to right any wrong doings. I was seriously wondering how this could ever __42__ my communication.
Then the man next to me raised his hand and volunteered this story: “Making my__43__, I remembered an incident from high school. I grew up in a small town. There was a Sheriff __44__ of us kids liked. One night, my two buddies(同伴) and I decided to play a __45__ on him.
After drinking a few beers, we climbed the tall water tank in the middle of the town, and wrote on the tank in bright red paint: Sheriff Brown is a s.o.b. (畜生). The next day, almost the whole town saw our glorious __46__. Within two hours, Sheriff Brown had us in his office. My friends told the truth but I lied. No one __47__ found out.”
“Nearly 20 years later, Sheriff Brown’s name __48__ on my list. I didn’t even know if he was still __49__. Last weekend, I dialed the information in my hometown and found there was a Roger Brown still listed. I tried his number. After a few __50__, I heard, “Hello?” I said, “Sheriff Brown?” Paused. “Yes.” “Well, this is Jimmy Calkins.”
“And I want you to know that I did it.” Paused. “I knew it!” he yelled back. We had a good laugh and a __51__ discussion. His closing words were: “Jimmy, I always felt bad for you __52__ your buddies got it off their chest, but you were carrying it __53__ all these years. I want to thank you for calling me...for your sake.”
Jimmy inspired me to __54__all 101 items on my list within two years, and I always remember what I learned from the course: It’s never too late to __55__the past wrongdoings.
A.something B.anything C.somebody D.anybody
A.ashamed B.afraid C.sure D.proud
A.private B.secret C.interesting D.funny
A.foolish B.polite C.simple D.brave
A.expected B.suggested C.ordered D.demanded
A.connect with B.depend on C.make an apology to D.get along with
A.improve B.continue C.realize D.keep
A.notes B.list C.plan D.stories
A.any B.most C.none D.all
A.part B.game C.trick D.record
A.view B.sign C.attention D.remark
A.also B.even C.still D.ever
A.appears B.considers C.presents D.remembers
A.angry B.happy C.doubtful D.alive
A.words B.rings C.repeats D.calls
A.cold B.plain C.nervous D.lively
A.in case B.so long as C.unless D.because
A.around B.out C.on D.away
A.build up B.make up C.clear up D.give up
A.regret B.forgive C.right D.punish
My husband and I insisted that our children were old enough to clean their rooms and make their beds. But they thought 1 . My complaints, even self-justified(自有道理) 2 , were always landing on 3 ears. Very often a whole hour’s scolding would end with their 4 into tears. I felt very frustrated. I realized I needed to 5 my method of “mothering”.
One day when they were at school, I spent some time tidying their rooms. On their desks, in plain 6 , I left the cards: “Dear Bill(the other card was 7 to Sarah), your room was messy this morning and I’m sure you like it clean. Love, the Room Fairy.” 8 arriving back, the children were 9 excited to receive the little note from the Room Fairy. The next day, their rooms were fairly tidy. Sure enough, there was another note from the Room Fairy 10 for them, thanking them for their nice “gift” of a clean room and 11 asking them to play a certain violin 12 . Each day, thank-you notes would be written differently to keep the ideas 13 .
Sometimes the Room Fairy would propose a little 14 : “If you can finish your homework and go over your lessons before dinner, I’d like to watch a particular television program with you tonight.” Sometimes some colored markers or other little items would be left in 15 of well-done jobs the day 16 .
17 I can’t remember how long “the Room Fairy” continued leaving her love notes. When they were age appropriate, we used various versions of Post-Its (贴条). The bathroom mirror became the 18 centre of our home. Appointments, notices about visiting relatives, lesson schedules, and changes in plans could be 19 .
We all benefited from and 20 the idea of sharing reminders and daily details of life through notes. I believe the true advantage of the Room Fairy notes survives in our frequent and enjoyable communication.
A.differently B.not C.negative D.same
A.crying B.shouting C.persuading D.beating
A.side B.deaf C.neither D.either
A.crying B.bringing C.bursting D.dropping
A.adjust B.adopt C.access D.addict
A.sentence B.words C.speech D.sight
A.sent B.read C.delivered D.addressed
A.As B.At C.In D.Upon
A.more than B.rather than C.no more than D.other than
A.asking B.waiting C.praying D.expecting
A.politely B.friendly C.gently D.toughly
A.music B.song C.piece D.tone
A.respectable B.uninteresting C.incredible D.fresh
A.challenge B.question C.suggestion D.advice
A.response B.answer C.praise D.honor
A.ahead B.before C.over D.ago
A.Actually B.Even so C.Even if D.Though
A.life B.main C.memory D.reminder
A.sent B.struck C.posted D.hanged
A.learned B.appreciated C.shared D.thanked