Because conflict and disagreements are part of all close relationships, couples need to learn strategies for managing conflict in a healthy and constructive way. Some couples just__50__ and deny the presence of any conflict in a relationship. __51__ ,denying the existence of conflict results in couples _52___ to solve their problems at early__53__ ,which can then lead to even greater problems later on .Not surprisingly, expressing anger and disagreement leads to lower marital (婚姻的)satisfaction at the beginning. However, this pattern of behavior _54___ increases in marital satisfaction over time. Research suggests that working through conflicts is an important predictor of marital satisfaction.
So, what can you do to manage conflict in your own relationships? First, try to understand the other person’s point of view__55__ put yourself in his of her place. People who are _56___ to what their partner thinks and feels _57___ greater relationship satisfaction. For example, researchers found that among people in dating relationships 58____ marriages, those who can adopt their partner’s perspective show more positive emotions, more relationship-enhancing attributes and more constructive responses _59___ conflict.
Second, because conflict and disagreements are an __60__ part of close relationships，people need to be able to apologize to their partner for wrongdoing and __61__ forgiveness from their partners for their own acts. Apologies minimize conflict, lead to forgiveness, and serve to restore relationship closeness. In line with this view, spouses（配偶） who are more forgiving show higher mental quality over time. Increasingly, apologizing can even have _62___ health benefits. For example, when people reflect on hurtful __63__ and grudges(怨恨)，they show negative physiological(生理的) effects, including __64__ heart rate and blood pressure, compared to when they reflect on sympathetic perspective-taking and forgiving.
A．resolve B．regret C．abandon D．avoid
A．Besides B．Therefore C．Moreover D．However
A．trying B．declining C．failing D．striving
A．ages B．years C．stages D．intervals
A．prescribes B．protests C．proves D．predicts
A．so B．while C．but D．and
A．sensitive B．superior C．exclusive D．efficient
A．expose B．experience C．explore D．exploit
A．as long as B．as far as C．as well as D．as soon as
A．to B．against C．at D．toward
A．absolute B．inevitable C．essential D．obvious
A．require B．inquire C．receive D．achieve
A．creative B．positive C．objective D．competitive
A．prospects B．concepts C．memories D．outlooks
A．added B．toughened C．strengthened D．increased
After I left the United States Air Force，I began college classes in the summer of 1983.I pursued my nursing degree with effort and ___ it in grand style in May 1986 along with a lot of friends and fellow students.
Of all my ____ professors，Dr Joan Cook had the most profound effect on me.She provided me with the stimulus to pursue my ____ beyond what the College of St.Mary could give me.In spite of ____ the same classes year in and year out，she put ____ into each class she was responsible for，and never ____ grew tired of her subject matter.
One day after class she pulled me ____ and said that she considered me one of her most“unusual”students who were able to walk a ____ road towards success.In my younger years I didn't ____ that being“unusual”would be such a tribute(称赞)．As I ____ and gained a wider variety of life's ____，I found that being“unusual”takes on an array of meanings.After getting my nursing degree I ____ to Texas where I decided to ____ an additional degree in anthropology(the study of the human race)to my resume(履历)as that particular and interesting field ____ me far more than nursing ever did.
I am exceedingly ____ to Dr Joan Cook for instilling(灌输)in me the ability to see myself far beyond what other people ____ me.What she said motivated me to follow my dreams ____ gave me endless strength.Thank Dr Joan Cook，for I ____ her a great deal in establishing the solid ____ of whom I am and for the person whom I am trying to become.Without her it would have been ____ for me to become a professor in Harvard University.
A．completed B．considered C．practiced D．received
A．company B．institute C．hospital D．university
A．business B．career C．education D．profession
A．attending B．teaching C．showing D．passing
A．stories B．power C．life D．measures
A．seemingly B．suddenly C．clearly D．wisely
A．over B．up C．in D．aside
A．different B．long C．common D．wide
A．hope B．realize C．mind D．mean
A．worked B．engaged C．exercised D．aged
A．talent B．views C．experiences D．friendship
A．stepped B．moved C．walked D．drove
A．connect B．introduce C．add D．direct
A．attracted B．saved C．protected D．touched
A．equal B．necessary C．important D．thankful
A．dealt with B．depended on C．thought of D．got along with
A．and B．or C．but D．so
A．remind B．owe C．offer D．lend
A．system B．opinion C．foundation D．faith
A．inevitable B．impossible C．believable D．changeable
“Dad, I am coming back．”These five words my world．
My daughter, Amy, had home seven years before to live in San Francisco．Over the years, we had talked the phone, written letters, and spent together during her infrequent trips back ．Whenever she came home, however, there was always a between us．Because of my work, I had been under a great deal of when she was growing up, and I would occasionally blow off steam．Amy was a little of me．
It was late October when Amy arrived．Almost immediately, we got into a(n) over some minor problem．I became worried I couldn’t living with her．I had accepted an early retirement incentive(刺激) would often be home a great deal．Amy would also be there as a freelance writer(自由撰稿人) for a publishing company in California．
Amy arrived, I had begun writing a book about my job experience．I knew the manuscript （手稿）needed much ．Amy agreed to help me, and we set up a weekly meeting in which we her suggested changes．It was for me in the beginning because it was hard to accept that my work was perfect．Week after week, she skillfully helped me to my work．
Through my writing, she began to understand I was under so much strain（压力）when she was a little girl．Also, I was told she the pain of dealing with depression．
Amy said to me one morning,” Your book has my life．I was wandering if my existence is ．Helping you with your manuscript has been my anchor（精神支柱） over the last six months．”
“Amy, you have inspired me with a great love of writing, and an even greater love of a fantastic editor, who just to be my daughter” I answered．
A．entered B．changed C．enriched D．impressed
A．betrayed B．returned C．removed D．left
A．in B．by C．on D．with
A．tension B．talk C．conference D．party
A．protection B．pressure C．passion D．imagination
A．fond B．tired C．afraid D．proud
A．agreement B．research C．trouble D．conflict
A．consider B．suggest C．handle D．mind
A．treating B．working C．acting D．regarding
A．Until B．When C．Before D．Since
A．editing B．adapting C．questioning D．designing
A．took over B．got over C．handed over D．went over
A．convenient B．rough C．abnormal D．amazing
A．far from B．much too C．more than D．no more
A．complete B．publish C．improve D．criticize
A．what B．how C．whether D．why
A．got rid of B．suffered from C．felt like D．cared for
A．saved B．defined C．witness D．touched
A．doubtful B．certain C．realistic D．worthwhile
A．proves B．hopes C．happens D．seems
"First of all…so unexpected, it's something I never thought I would receive…it really touches me. It's made me very ."
Born in the suburbs of Paris in 1945, Patrick Modiano began to write in his . His first book "La Place de l'etoile" was published in 1968.
Peter Englund, Permanent Secretary of Swedish Academy, explains why they Modiano for this year's prize.
"He writes about very interesting and general , he is writing about time, memory, identity, he is doing it in a very refined（有教养的） and way, he is doing it in a pretty way, he has very very precise style."
Englund also says Modiano's writing style is to that of other Nobel laureates(诺贝尔得主), China's Mo Yan.
"The same thing as Mo Yan, and Alice Munro, they are very much connected to places, Mo Yan with Shandong, and Alice Munro about her part of Canada, that is a very explainable paradox（自相矛盾的人或事） for an very general, they are often connected to the place."
The city of Paris plays in Modiano's works.
Englund says his reflects a different time for the readers in the French capital.
"I say he gives us help to understand the intricacies（纷繁难懂之处） of how difficult it is to reach back and understand versions of yourself and to understand happens 30 years ago, the problems with understanding but at the same time you can't from it, you must try to reach out time and understand yourself and understand what happened."
This year's Nobel Peace Prize is be announced later on this Friday in Oslo, Norway.
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When we read newspapers, we often come across such English words as “AIDS” and “PK.” When we watch TV, we hear words like “NBA” or “PM2.5.” we speak, we automatically use words like “OUT” or “Bye-bye.” English words and expressions like these popular . They have already become part of our daily . And 239 English words have been included in the latest Dictionary of Contemporary Chinese.
The inclusion has started a discussion. A group of scholars a letter of complaint over the inclusion of these English words, which, they think, goes Chinese language policies. They not only worry that Chinese is an increasing number of English words but are also concerned that the may hurt the dignity of the Chinese language. However, others are in of the inclusion because it is hard to say whether it will threaten the Chinese language. They believe the selection is mostly a result of their function and use in daily life.
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He walked into the city lost in his own thoughts. His eyes seemed to travel the kingdom of unknown. A childlike smile played on his lips. Though he had nothing, he to be the king of himself.
The first time people him, they were attracted! Some elderly people him. "Stranger," they said, "where are you from, and who are the so lucky to have a son like you?" He the loveliest smile they had ever seen and replied to satisfy their , "I am not special but one you."
"But you are very much unlike us, stranger. You have a face, noble behavior, and the eyes full of the joy of your soul. All the facts make you among all of us. can you be one of us?"
He said, "Still I what I have said just now. I am else but one of you. You can’t me because of the limitations of yourselves. I am the dreamer in you; the dreamer who doesn’t let the world of difficulties steal his ; who doesn’t allow the lack of resources to reduce his dreams. I, , speak to myself time and again that my dreams are big and my resources are enough to realize all of them. Thus I am not like you in face of cruel realities."
And they delightfully, as if somebody was playing a sweet note(曲子) into their ears. The note lasted for a long time, and when they came back to the and looked around, they found the man had left. Only his rang around, "Be a dreamer, for you are what your dreams are."
And they said to each other, "yeah, he was none else but the dreamer in us."
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