A recent research has pointed to the risks of overpraising a child. But for parents, drawing the line between too little praise and too much has become a high-pressure balancing act.
Cara Greene, a mother of three children ages 1 to 8, is wary of deliberately pumping up her kids' egos(自我), for fear of instilling(灌输) the sense of entitlement she sees in young adults 'who have been told they're wonderful and they can do anything.' But she also wants them to have healthy self-esteem(自我认知).
'We wouldn't be doing our children any favors by overinflating their egos. At the same time, I want them to have the confidence to tackle any challenge that is placed before them,' says Ms. Greene, of New York City.
Now, psychologists are creating a deeper and more nuanced understanding of self-esteem, which could make it easier for parents to walk that line. Some of the conclusions: It can actually be good for kids to have low self-esteem, at least temporarily. And praise can harm if it disregards the world outside the home. Children who have a realistic not inflated understanding of how they are seen by others tend to be more resilient to the world around them.
In the past, many parents and educators believed that high self-esteem predicted happiness and success, and that it could be instilled(灌输) in kids simply by doling out trophies and praise. But researchers have since found self-esteem doesn't predict these outcomes. High self-esteem is partly the result of good performance, rather than the cause. Inflating kids' self-esteem too much can backfire, making them feel worse later on when they hit setbacks.
'Children absolutely need to feel valued, accepted and loved, and this will lead to high self-esteem,' Dr. Leary says. But it can also be good for kids to feel bad about themselves temporarily, if they behave in selfish, mean or hurtful ways that might damage their ability to sustain relationships or hold a job in the future, he says. The best path is a middle road, helping children develop a positive but realistic view of themselves in relation to others.
The researchers believe that_______.
A.high self-esteem brings happiness and success to children. |
B.high self-esteem is the cause of good performance. |
C.Inflating kids' self-esteem too much can make kids feel worse later on when they meet difficulties. |
D.self-esteem couldn’t be instilled in kids simply by doling out praise. |
Which of the following statements is wrong according to the passage?
A.high self-esteem could be instilled(灌输) in kids simply by doling out trophies and praise. |
B.children should have a realistic not inflated understanding of how they are seen. |
C.high self-esteem can lead to happiness. |
D.praise can harm if it disregards the world outside the home. |
The main idea of the passage is_______________.
A.We want to kids to have self-esteem(自我认知). |
B.We should help children develop a positive but realistic view of themselves in relation to others. |
C.it can also be good for kids to feel bad about themselves temporarily. |
D.Children absolutely need to feel valued, accepted and loved, and this will lead to high self-esteem. |
Although English is not as old as Chinese, it is spoken by many people around the world every day. English speakers are always creating new words, and we should be able to know where most words come from.
Sometimes, however, no one may know really where a word comes from. Did you ever think about why hamburgers are called hamburgers, especially when they are not made with ham( 火腿 )? About a hundred years ago, some men went to America from Europe. They came from a big city in Germany called Hamburger. They didn’t speak good English, but they ate good food. When some Americans saw them eating round pieces of beef, they asked the Germans what it was. The Germans did not understand the question and answered. “We came from Hamburger.” One of these Americans owned a restaurant, and had an idea. He cooked some round pieces of beef like what the men from Hamburger ate. Then he put them between two pieces of bread and started selling them. Today “ hamburgers” are sold in many countries around the world.
Whether this story is true or not, it certainly is interesting. Knowing why any word has a certain meaning is interesting, too. The reason may be found in any large English dictionary.According to the writer, English ______.
A.is as old as Chinese | B.is not so old as Chinese |
C.is older than German | D.is very difficult to learn |
According to the story,_______.
A.few Americans like hamburgers |
B.hamburgers are made with beef |
C.hamburgers are made with ham |
D.hamburgers were sold all over the world about a century ago |
According to the writer, which of the following can be found in any large English dictionary?
A.Where all the new words come from |
B.Where those Germans came from |
C.The reason why any word has a certain meaning. |
D.The reason why English is spoken around the world |
According to the story, the word “hamburger” comes from ________.
A.China because it has a long history |
B.England because Germans don’t speak good English |
C.the round pieces of beef those people from Hamburger brought to America |
D.English speakers because they always create new words |
Five years ago, David Smith wore an expensive suit to work every day.“I was a clothes addict(有瘾的人)”he jokes.“I used to carry a fresh suit to work with me so I could change if my clothes got wrinkled.” Today David wears casual(不经意的,随意的) clothes—khaki pants (裤子)and a sports shirt—to the office. He hardly ever wears a necktie.“I am working harder than ever.”David says,“and I need to feel comfortable.”
More and more companies are allowing their office workers to wear casual clothes to work. In the United States, the change from formal to casual office wear has been gradual. In the early 1990s, many companies allowed their employees to wear casual clothes on Friday(but only on Friday).This became known as“dress-down Friday”or“casual Friday”.“What started out as an extra one-day-a-week benefit for employees has really become an everyday thing.”said business Maisly Jones.
Why have so many companies started allowing their employees to wear casual clothes? One reason is that it’s easier for a company to attract new employees if it has a casual dress code.” “A lot of young people don’t want to dress up for work,” says the owner of a software company,“so it’s hard to hire people if you have a conservative(保守的)dress code.”Another reason is that people seem happier and more productive when they are wearing comfortable clothes. In a study conducted by Levi Strauss and Company, 85 percent of employers said that they believe that casual dress improves employee morale(心境,士气). Only 4 percent of employers said that casual dress has a negative influence on productivity. Supporters of casual office wear also argue that a casual dress code helps them save money. “Suits are expensive, if you have to wear one every day,”one person said. “For the same amount of money, you can buy a lot more casual clothes.”David Smith refers to himself as having been“a clothes addict,”because .
A.he often wore khaki pants and a sports shirt |
B.he couldn’t stand a clean appearance |
C.he wanted his clothes to look neat all the time |
D.he didn’t want to spend much money on clothes |
David Smith wears casual clothes now, because .
A.they make him feel at ease when working |
B.he cannot afford to buy expensive clothes |
C.he looks handsome in casual clothes |
D.he no longer works for any company |
According to this passage, which of the following statements is TRUE?
A.Company workers started to dress down about twenty years ago. |
B.Dress-down has become an everyday phenomenon since the early 90s. |
C.“Dress-down Friday”was first given as a favor from employers. |
D.Many workers want to wear casual clothes to impress people. |
In this passage, the following advantages of casual office wear are mentioned EXCEPT_______
A.saving employees’ money | B.making employees more attractive |
C.improving employees’ motivation | D.making employees happier |
It was early morning. Peter Corbett helped Mark Wellman out of his wheelchair and onto the ground. They stood before El Capitan, a huge mass of rock almost three-quarters of a mile high in California's beautiful Yosemite Valley. It had been Mark's dream to climb El Capitan for as long as he could remember. But how could a person without the use of his legs hope to try to climb it?
Mark knew he couldn't finish the climb alone, but his friend Peter, an expert rock climber, would be there to lend a helping hand. He and Mark thought that it would take seven days to reach the top.
Peter climbed about 100 feet up and hammered a piton (岩钉) into the rock. Fastening one end of a 165-foot rope to the piton, he let one end of the rope fall down. Mark caught the rope and fastened it to his belt with a special instrument. This instrument would allow Mark to move upward, but would prevent him from falling even as much as a single inch. He next reached above his head and fastened a T-shaped bar to the rope, using the same kind of instrument.
Mark took a deep breath, pushed the T-bar up almost as far as his arms could reach, and began the first of the 7,000 pull-ups needed to reach the top. High above, Peter let out a cheer. “You're on your way.”
Seven years before, at the age of twenty-one, he had fallen while mountain climbing, injuring his backbone. The fall cost him the use of his legs, but he never lost his love of adventure or his joyful spirit.
For the first four days the two men progressed steadily upward without incident. But on the fifth day an unbearably hot wind began to blow, and as time went by, it became stronger and stronger, causing Mark to sway (摇摆) violently on his rope. But Mark kept on determinedly pushing up the T-bar and pulling himself up. In spite of that, he had to admit that he felt a lot better when the wind finally died down and his body touched solid rock again.
It took them one day more than they had expected, but on July 26 at 1:45 in the afternoon, the crowd of people waiting on the top went wild with joy as the two heads appeared. Mark Wellman had shown that if you set your heart and mind on a goal, no wall is too high, no dream impossible.What had Mark Wellman long desired to do?
A.To finish one of the most difficult rock climbs in the world. |
B.To be the first to climb El Capitan. |
C.To climb the highest mountain in California. |
D.To help his friend Peter climb El Capitan. |
How did Mark climb the mountain?
A.He fastened the rope to his wheelchair. |
B.He hammered in pitons so that he had something to hold on to. |
C.He held on to the T-bar and Peter pulled him up. |
D.He pulled himself up using a T-bar and special equipment. |
What was the worst problem Mark had during the climb?
A.He struck against the rock and hurt his arms. |
B.A strong wind blew him away from the rock. |
C.He kept falling several inches. |
D.While swaying in space, he became terrified. |
How did Mark react to difficulties during the climb?
A.He admitted that he was frightened. |
B.He often worried about his friend's condition. |
C.He was able to remain clam and determined. |
D.He was joking to cheer himself up. |
In most developed countries the government provides free education for children because it realizes that educated citizens are useful to the country in their later life. Most countries also have private (私立的)education. This means that parents can pay to send their children to certain schools. People who agree with this system say that it gives parents a larger choice of schools. Other people think that private schools give the children who go to them an unfair advantage over other children.
At the age of three, many children go to nursery school. Two or three years later, they enter a primary school. At the age of 11 they go to a secondary school. Then they may have a chance .of continuing their studies at a university or college.
Universities and colleges are places where some young people go to continue their education after leaving school. Most university students study one main subject, though they may also study a number of others. Teaching is usually by lectures, or by discussions between a lecturer and students.
Most students stay at university for three or four years. At the end of that, they take an examination. If they pass, they receive their Bachelor’s degree, usually a BA, which is short for Bachelor of Arts, or a BS for Bachelor of Science. Some students study for several more years in order to get higher degree, such as a MA or a PhD
Most university courses don’t train students to do a certain job. Colleges, on the other hand, usually teach skills which enable students to follow a career(职业), such as clothing design, or business studies.The passage mainly tells us_______.
A Something about the private schools in developed countries
B. How developed countries pay attention to education
C. Some general information about education in developed countries
Why education is important Why do most developed countries provide free education to children?
A.Because the children don’t have money to go to school. |
B.Because the government want their citizens to be useful to the country. |
C.Because education doesn’t cost the country too much money. |
D.Because there are not enough private schools. |
In the first paragraph the underlined word “citizen” refer to________.
A.the cities | B.members of a country |
C.the children | D.people who lives in cities |
Which of the following statement is true according to the passage?
All the university students study one subject.
After studying at the university for three or four years, all the students can get a Bachelor’s degree.
C. Students usually receive a master’s degree before receiving a Bachelor’s degree.
D. Unlike university, colleges usually teach students some useful skills for a career
“How was school, Ben?” I asked my grandson after he began kindergarten(幼儿园) this year. “The work is too long… and there’s not enough time to play,” he replied.
I couldn’t help but remember Ben’s own mother, my daughter, Jane, and her reaction(反应) to the first day of school. Julie was also disappointed with the first day of school and so was her little sister. My three-year-old daughter announced angrily after her big sister got on the big yellow school bus, “I want to go ‘sool’ and you not let me!”
When Julie returned home that afternoon, I asked her the same question that I asked Ben, “How was school, Julie?” Julie replied, “I didn’t learn to read today.”
This year as the school bus passed my house, my mind went back to those school days again. I could almost smell the chalk dust in the air. I also wonder what the children these days manage to get chosen to do in order to get out of school for a few moments since there are no erasers to clean. It was fun to be “chosen” for eraser cleaning duty. This was a task finished by going outside and beating erasers together while sneezing and coughing. No wonder so many babies now have allergies(过敏症), and it’s simply because we all have chalk dust in our lungs!
On the first day of school, the expectation was so great that I would be ready long before it was time to leave for school. We didn’t have backpacks because we had cigar boxes. We carried our small supplies inside a cigar box from one of the local stores. We saved the cigar boxes and used them from year to year until they fell apart.
The first day of school was exciting. It was a new beginning. The doors of knowledge had been opened. The first day of school is an event in our lives that most of us remember. It’s a big step for a small child toward leaving babyhood and so “there isn’t enough time to play”.Why did Jane become angry according to the passage?
A.Because she didn’t learn to read on the first day of school. |
B.Because there was too much work for her to do at school. |
C.Because she had no time to play at school. |
D.Because she was not allowed to go to school. |
The underlined sentence in Paragraph 4 suggests that .
A.the author was thinking of her school days jokingly |
B.the author warned students against the harm of chalk dust |
C.the author suffered from an allergy because of chalk dust |
D.the author doubted whether her lungs had chalk dust |
In the opinion of the author, the first day of school is .
A.a day when a child is the happiest |
B.a day when a child does much work |
C.the beginning of great learning |
D.the end of childhood full of toys |