Mark Twain said that "habit is habit, and not to be flung（扔） out the window by anyone, but coaxed(劝诱) downstairs a step at a time. " The chances of successfully changing negative behavior when you make gradual changes that give you time to _ _ negative patterns for positive ones.
On any given day, countless numbers of us get out of bed and _ _ to begin to change a given behavior "today." Whether it be exercising more, drinking less, managing time or some other change in a negative behavior, we start out with high . In a short time, however, a vast majority of people fail and are soon doing it was they thought they shouldn't be doing.
After considerable research, some researchers believe that behavior changes usually do not if they start with the change itself. , they believe that we must a series of “stages” to adequately prepare ourselves for that change. Once you have analyzed all the factors that what you do ,you must decide which behavior-change technique will work best for you.
According to the psychologist Albert Ellis, most problems and related behaviors arise from irrational (不理性的) statements that people make to when events in their lives are different from what they would like them to be. For example, suppose after doing on an exam, you say to yourself, “I can not believe I failed that easy exam. I am so stupid.”By changing this irrational “catastrophic” self-talk into rational, statements about what is really going on, you can increase the that positive behaviors will occur.
Positive self-talk might be as follows: "I really didn't study enough for the exam. I just need to prepare for the next ”.
Such self-talk will help you to recover quickly from and take positive steps to correct the situation. Some other technique like purposefully or stopping negative thoughts and refusing to dwell on (沉湎于) negative images can also spare you wasted energy, time and emotional resources and move on to positive changes.
A．decline B．remain C．disappear D．improve
A．substitute B．cancel C．find D．ignore
A．refuse B．determine C．hesitate D．advocate
A．more B．better C．worse D．less
A．values B．requirements C．expectations D．levels
A．whichever B．however C．wherever D．whatever
A．succeed B．fail C．exist D．fade
A．Nevertheless B．Otherwise C．Instead D．Moreover
A．look through B．break through C．go through D．pull through
A．initial B．temporary C．instant D．eventual
A．involve B．influence C．explain D．adjust
A．emotional B．physical C．technical D．professional
A．all B．others C．someone D．themselves
A．poorly B．carefully C．completely D．slowly
A．positive B．ridiculous C．negative D．explicit
A．danger B．awareness C．amount D．probability
A．written B．phrased C．listed D．captioned
A．research B．test C．talk D．problem
A．tiredness B．habits C．disappointment D．burdens
A．recalling B．starting C．blocking D．holding
Nine years ago, after Leo had died, people said to me, “I never knew he was your stepfather.” You see, I never called him . At first, he was no one special in my life. Then he became my friend. , I felt he was also my father.
Leo married my mother when I was eleven. Two years later we moved into a house in a new suburban development, where we put down roots. At first our lawn was just a mud with wild grass, but Leo saw bright . “We’ll plant trees there to give us as well as some flowers,” he said. And just these little touches made our house from all the others. More importantly, a real family was . Leo was becoming a full-time parent, and I was learning what it to have a father.
Weekday mornings when the weather was bad, Leo often drove me to school. Having a father
you off may have been something my classmates took for granted, I always thought it was wonderful. mornings, we went to the hardware shop, then stepped into the five-and-ten, buying a sports magazine or something else. Some people might think that doing shopping together is nothing , but I, who had ever before spent my childhood other families do their everyday activities, experienced them now with delight. , I realized that Leo gave me what I needed most—the of doing ordinary things together as a family.
A．it B．that C．so D．one
A．In time B．At the time C．First time D．On time
A．necessities B．possibilities C．recognition D．decoration
A．vegetables B．grass C．shadow D．shade
A．beautiful B．similar C．same D．different
A．forming B．developing C．growing D．becoming
A．became B．meant C．followed D．got
A．cut B．help C．drop D．drive
A．so B．and C．but D．since
A．Monday B．Weekday C．Friday D．Saturday
A．special B．usual C．especial D．different
A．noticing B．recognizing C．understanding D．watching
A．modest B．extreme C．deep D．high
A．Looking back B．Coming back C．Looking forward D．Going back on
A．achievement B．recognition C．experience D．procedure
It was a Christmas break from school almost 40 years ago. I had spent most of the morning like any boy would, outside in the snow and enjoying the sunlight on the day of the year. I liked stepping through the snow, making snowballs to the trees, and watching the smoky breath float (飘) out of my . After a while, though, the got to be too much and I went .
It was warm in the house. I my wet coat and put on my favorite blue sweater. Then I walked into the . My mom and grandma had just baking two loaves of Italian bread. Mom looked up, smiled at me and asked me what I wanted for . I smiled back and pointed to the delicious bread. Mom laughed, a slice off the bread, and buttered it for me. Then she told me to go sit the stove (炉子) in the living room. Taking my slice with me I sat in my favorite chair, and felt the gentle heat (热) from the stove my little body. It was a moment of pure . I felt so good and so loved that I it to this day.
Our daily and love are all we need in this life. They are all we need to . Anything else is just an extra blessing to be used to make this world a place for us all.
Be thankful for the daily bread that fills your and for daily love that fills your soul. Then go out and with great joy your bread, your blessings, and your love with the world.
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A．hottest B．shortest C．quickest D．biggest
A．pick up B．look for C．care about D．throw at
A．pool B．mouth C．box D．room
A．illness B．waste C．cold D．smoke
A．away B．fast C．alone D．inside
A．took off B．put aside C．gave away D．found out
A．classroom B．station C．kitchen D．office
A．finished B．suggested C．allowed D．begun
A．rest B．lunch C．support D．pleasure
A．beat B．pulled C．ate D．cut
A．around B．by C．under D．with
A．warm B．touch C．help D．protect
A．friendship B．freedom C．peace D．luck
A．remember B．write C．respect D．follow
A．chance B．advice C．news D．bread
A．change B．live C．travel D．think
A．cleaner B．closer C．better D．cooler
A．memory B．house C．hand D．stomach
A．save B．share C．take D．make
I used to be a very self-centered person, but in the past two years I have really changed. I have started to think about other people I think about myself. I am happy that I am becoming a person.
I think my started when I was at Palomar College. At first, I just wanted to get my and be left alone. I thought I was smarter than everyone else, so I hardly ever to anyone in my classes. By the end of my first semester, I was really . It seemed as if everyone but me had made friends and was having fun. So tried a(n) . I started asking people around me how they were doing, and if they were having trouble I to help. That was really a big for me. By the end of the year, I had several new friends, and two of are still my best friends today.
A bigger cause of my new , however, came when I took a part-time job at a Vista Nursing Home. One old lady there who had Alzheimer’s disease became my . Every time I came into her room, she was so because she thought I was her daughter. Her real daughter never her, so I took her place. She let me . that making others feel good made me feel good, too. when she died, I was , but I was very grateful to her.
I think I am a much person today than I used to be, and I hope I will not these experiences. They have me to care about other people more than about myself. I who I am today, and I could not say that a few years ago.
A．since B．before C．or D．unless
A．famous B．simple C．different D．skilled
A．education B．career C．tour D．change
A．balance B．homework C．degree D．interest
A．talked B．wrote C．lied D．reported
A．careful B．lonely C．curious D．guilty
A．argument B．game C．experiment D．defence
A．dared B．offered C．hesitated D．happened
A．dream B．problem C．duty D．step
A．us B．which C．them D．whom
A．attitude B．hobby C．hope D．luck
A．friend B．partner C．guide D．guest
A．polite B．happy C．strange D．confident
A．bothered B．answered C．visited D．trusted
A．explain B．guess C．declare D．see
A．homeless B．heartbroken C．bad-tempered D．hopeless
A．quieter B．busier C．better D．richer
A．forget B．face C．improve D．analyze
A．forced B．preferred C．ordered D．taught
A．miss B．like C．wonder D．expect
Everyone needs friends. A friend can give us help and share our sadness and happiness. When there is a friend with us, ___ But how to make friends?
____ To make friends, you must be nice to others. Smile at others and you are sure to get a smile in return. The more you smile, ____ Wearing a smile usually means you are approachable, and you should try to make a stranger feel at home wherever he happens to be. Think more of others than of yourself and never judge a person by his appearance and clothes.
Be fun to be around. In order to make friends, you don’t have to be a superstar. __ During the conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey(传达) that you are approachable, laugh often and make eye contact. If you want other people to like you, make them feel important and do it sincerely.
Be trustworthy (值得信任的). One of the main things about having a friend is that you have someone with whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide. ___ Before people feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs.
In conclusion, a great secret to have good relationship with other people is to understand that everyone has their shortcomings. A friend is our small world and it is in our hands, as long as you open your eyes to look at the beauties.
A．Learn to smile. B．Be ready to help your friends. C．the more natural your smile will be. D．we feel secure, happy, and comfortable.
My sister and I grew up in a little village in England. Our father was a struggling , but I always knew he was . He never criticized us, but used to bring out our best. He’d say, “If you pour water on flowers, they flourish. If you don’t give them water, they die.” I as a child I said something about somebody, and my father said, “ time you say something unpleasant about somebody else, it’s a reflection of you.” He explained that if I looked for the best people, I would get the best . From then on I’ve always tried to the principle in my life and later in running my company.
Dad’s also always been very . At 15, I started a magazine. It was a great deal of my time, and the headmaster of my school gave me a ：stay in school or leave to work on my magazine.
I decided to leave, and Dad tried to sway me from my decision, any good father would. When he realized I had made up my mind, he said, “Richard, when I was 23, my dad me to go into law. And I’ve regretted it. I wanted to be a biologist, I didn’t pursue my . You know what you want. Go fulfill it.”
As turned out, my little publication went on to become Student, a national for young people in the U.K. My wife and I have two children, and I’d like to think we are bringing them up in the same way Dad me.
A．biologist B．manager C．lawyer D．gardener
A．strict B．honest C．special D．learned
A．praise B．courage C．power D．warmth
A．think B．imagine C．remember D．guess
A．unnecessary B．unkind C．unimportant D．unusual
A．Another B．Some C．Any D．Other
A．on B．in C．at D．about
A．in case B．by turns C．by chance D．in return
A．revise B．set C．review D．follow
A．understanding B．experienced C．serious D．demanding
A．taking up B．making up C．picking up D．keeping up
A．suggestion B．decision C．notice D．choice
A．and B．as C．even if D．as if
A．helped B．allowed C．persuaded D．suggested
A．always B．never C．seldom D．almost
A．rather B．but C．for D．therefore
A．promise B．task C．belief D．dream
A．this B．he C．it D．that
A．newspaper B．magazine C．program D．project
A．controlled B．comforted C．reminded D．raise