Communication Principles（2009．江苏)
How you see yourself can make a great difference in how you communicate．“Every individual exists in a continually changing world of experience of which he（or she）is the center”．Many communication scholars and social scientists believe that people are products of how others treat them and of the messages others send them．But every day we experience the centrality of our selves in communication．A student．for instance，may describe a conflict with a teacher as unfair treatment：“I know my teacher doesn’t like the fact that I don’t agree with his opinions．and that’s why he gave me such a poor grade in that class．”The teacher might say the opposite．Each person may believe that he is correct and that the other person’s view is wrong．
The concept of serf originates in communication．Through verbal and nonverbal symbols, a child learns to accept roles in response to the expectations of others．You establish self-image。The sort of person you believe you are，by how others think of you．Positive，negative，and neutral messages that you receive from others all play a role in determining who you are．Communication itself is probably best understood as a dialogue process．Our understanding of communication comes from our interactions with other people．In a more obvious way．communication involves others in the sense that a competent communicator considers what the other person needs and expects when selecting messages to share．So，the communication begins with the self，as defined largely by others，and involves others，as defined largely by the self．
Communication Occurs almost every minute of your life．If you are not communicating with yourself（thinking，planning，reacting to the world around you），you are observing others and drawing inferences from their behavior．Even if the other person did not intend a message for you．you gather observations and draw specific conclusions．A person yawns and you believe that person is bored with your message．A second person looks away from you and you conclude that person is not listening to you．A third person smiles（perhaps because of a memory of a joke he heard recently） and you believe that he is attracted to you．We are continually picking up meanings from others’ behaviors and we are constantly providing behaviors that have communicative value for them．
More often than not，you may have hurt someone accidentally and you may have tried to explain that you did not mean that. You may have told the other person that you were sorry for your statement．You may have made a joke out of your rude statement．Nonetheless，your comment remains both in the mind of the other person and in your own mind．You cannot go back in time and erase your messages to others．Communication cannot be reversed（倒退），nor can it be repeated．When you tried to re—create the atmosphere，the conversation，and the setting，nothing seemed right．Your second experience with a similar setting and person made far different results．
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| Communication begins with the self |
●People are somewhat products of others’ treatment and messages． ●we are always |
| Communication |
●Experiences of others help children learn to accept roles． ●Messages from others help you ●Needs and |
| Communication everywhere |
●We are communicating with ourselves by thinking，planning and reacting to the outside world． ●We are always ●We are constantly collecting meanings from others’ ●We are constantly |
| Communication cannot be reversed nor repeated |
●You may explain what you have done，but you cannot ●Yon may redo the conversation，but you |
Recently, a website has carried out a survey (31)________ the common view on graduates from Beijing University.
28% of the (32)__________(interview) companies think that they are quite (33)_______(satisfy) with the graduates from Beijing University. The graduates (34)______ their companies have a wide range of (35)________(know) and they learn things very quickly and easily.
(36)_________, most of the companies don’t think much (37)_________ graduates from Beijing University. In their eyes, the graduates always stick to their own opinions and lack the teamwork spirit (38)_________ working. Besides, they may not be satisfied with their jobs, even with big companies, and they usually ask for too much. (39)_______ a result, 34% of the companies insist that they will not employ graduates from Beijing University.
In brief, society and (40)________ the students themselves expect too much from graduates from Beijing University. That’s why a graduate claims that he is rubbish.
Many people keep small fish _31_______ pets. They keep them in a tank of water. The tank is made of glass. People can _32________ through it. They can see inside the tank and watch the fish.
The fish need room. They mustn’t be crowded. They need _33_______ to breathe.
__34_____ must be enough water for all fish. So the size of the tank is very important.
In the tank people put small plants __35________ are good for fish. They give oxygen to the water. Plants help in other ways, too. They can hide __36_______ the plants and sleep, lay eggs there.
The fish __37______ be kept in water all the time. Some can jump high. So the tank should be covered. This keeps the fish __38________ (jump) out.
The fish need food and should be fed every day. But __39____________ you give them too much food, it is very bad, for the extra food will fall to the bottom and make the water dirty. So the fish should get just enough food and finish __40___________ in ten minutes. Nothing should be left.
In North America, people are always in __31______ hurry. Children have special lessons or sports activities __32________ school. Parents often work late and ___33________ get home until 7 or 8 o’clock at night. Most North American families don’t have time to prepare a meal. That is __34_________ fast food is so popular in North America. People _____35_____ about 40% of their dollars on fast food.
People usually buy fast food from restaurant chains such as Pizza Hut, McDonald’s, or KFC,__ 36______ they can enjoy pizza, sandwiches, fried chicken, and so on. Fast food saves work and time, but it is not __37_________ (nutrition).
Fast food is popular in many countries. American fast-food companies now have restaurants all over the world. But not __38________ is happy about the spread(扩展) of North American fast food. A group of people in Italy want to fight __39_______ the spread of American fast food. They don’t like the idea of more fast food chains __40__________(open) restaurants in their country.
I asked my uncle, who plays __31_______ piano well, __32_______ he would assess (评定) the tone of a second hand piano I was hoping to buy. We arrived __33_______ the house and Uncle Frank looked the piano over, then __34_______ (sit) down and played a mixture of honky-tonk numbers and classical pieces. When he finished, we told the family that we would call ___35_______ in 15 minutes.
Outside, Uncle Frank said that ___36________ the wood was battered (坏掉的)，the sound was good and we should buy it.
When I phoned the woman back, she sounded as if she was crying. __37____ (concern), I asked, “What’s the matter?”
“We didn’t know the piano_38______ play like that,” she replied. The piano wasn’t __39_______sale, and her daughter had to resume(重新开始) taking piano __40___________.
A few years ago, SARS __31______ out in the mainland of China, causing some people __32________ (kill) or nearly got close to death. The situation was so severe that there was__33______ time to debate who is to blame. The most important thing for the government to do is to find out the __34________ of this deadly disease. They invited all the most __35_________ (experience) experts in this field to discuss and quite a few suggestions were put forward. Some of the top experts then tested them to see _36_______ they were available. Doctor Zhong Nanshan chose one patient who was seriously ill and had little hope__37_______ picking up and had the new medicine tested on him. __38______ his great joy, this patient recovered! He made his way to his office and telephoned the top official, __39_______ (tell) him this exciting news. For convenience, he moved to live in his office. His method did make sense. Not soon after that, the __40___ hospitals also controlled this terrible disease and kicked it out finally.