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Once kids hit the teenage years, parenting becomes more difficult than ever. Establishing（建立）effective house rules is one of the best ways to educate teenagers. House rules must respect teenagers’ desire to be independent and make sure they behave responsibly.
How can effective house rules be established?
First of all, get your teenager to take part in making the rules, which can help keep them motivated to follow them. Ask their opinion about what sorts of things they think are important when creating the rules and try to include some of their ideas.
When creating the list of rules, don’t list every single rule imaginable. Instead, try to limit it to the ten most important rules. I’ve seen some parents come up with several pages of rules which turn out to be more like a rule book rather than a list. Remember, it is important to make the list easy to remember and to be a basic guide.
Then, it is important that you write out the list of rules and hang them in a prominent (显眼的) location. Keeping the rules on the refrigerator or displayed somewhere where everyone can see them is a good reminder. Revise the rules whenever there’s a need, not very frequently though.
Explain clearly in advance what negative result will be in store when a rule gets broken. But ensure that none of your results are equal to abusive parenting. For example, take off the rule that says — “if you don’t get home by 11 at night, make arrangements to stay elsewhere until morning”. Let helping with small household chores like cleaning up their own rooms serve as a result of breaking rules.
Follow these tips on establishing effective house rules accompanied by constant positive reinforcement (执行),and you will see the improvement in your teenager’s behavior. Hope you can direct your teenager to become a responsible and independent person with the help of house rules!

Title	Establishing house rules for ___________
Requirements for house rules	They must respect teenagers’ desire to be independent and make sure that teenagers have responsible___________.

__________ on establishing effective house rules	Trying to make the rules together ____________ teenagers.	Ask their opinions Include their ideas
Keeping the house rules simple	Avoid___________ every single rule imaginable. Limit the list to the most important rules.
Writing out the list of rules and hanging them somewhere visible	____________ your teenager of the rules Make the rules revised ____________ necessary.
___________ clearly the results	Don’t abuse children if they ___________ rules
Conclusion	Your teenager’s behavior will___________ with the help of effective house rules.

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At last firefighters have put out a big forest fire in California．Since then，they (set) about finding out the fire began．Forest fires are often caused by (break)glass or by cigarette ends which people carelessly throw away．Yesterday the (fireman)examined the ground but were not able to find any．They were also quite sure that a cigarette end didn’t start the fire．However，several hours passed a fireman accidentally discovered the cause．He noticed the remains of a snake which was wound(蜿蜒；缠绕)around the electric wires of a 16，000-volt power line．In this way，he was able to solvemystery．The (explain) was simple but very (usual)．A bird had snatched up the snake from the ground and then (drop)it on to the wires．The snake then wound round the wires．When it did so，it sent sparks down to the ground and these immediately started a fire．

The term bystander effect refers to the phenomenon in which the greater the number of people present, the less likely people are to help a person in distress. When an emergency situation occurs, observers are more likely to take action if there are few or no other witnesses. Being part of a large crowd makes it so no single person has to take responsibility for an action (or inaction).
The most frequently cited example of the bystander effect in introductory psychology textbooks is the brutal murder of a young woman named Catherine "Kitty" Genovese. On Friday, March 13, 1964, 28-year-old Genovese was returning home from work. As she approached her apartment entrance, she was attacked and stabbed by a man later identified as Winston Moseley.
Despite Genovese’s repeated calls for help, none of the dozen or so people in the nearby apartment building who heard her cries called police to report the incident. The attack first began at 3:20 AM, but it was not until 3:50 AM that someone first contacted police.
While Genovese's case has been subject to numerous misrepresentations and inaccuracies, there have been numerous other cases reported in recent years. The bystander effect can clearly have a powerful impact on the general conduct of people in a society, but why exactly does it happen? Why don't we help when we are part of a crowd?
There are several factors that contribute to the bystander effect. First, the presence of other people creates a diffusion of responsibility. Because there are other observers, individuals do not feel as much pressure to take action, since the responsibility to take action is thought to be shared among all of those present.
The second reason is the need to behave in correct and socially acceptable ways. When other observers fail to react, individuals often take this as a signal that a response is not needed or not appropriate. Other researchers have found that onlookers are less likely to intervene if the situation is ambiguous. In the case of Kitty Genovese, many of the 38 witnesses reported that they believed that they were witnessing a "lover's quarrel," and did not realize that the young woman was actually being murdered.
Characteristics of the situation can play a role. During a crisis, things are often chaotic and the situation is not always crystal clear. Onlookers might wonder exactly what is happening. During such chaotic moments, people often look to others in the group to determine what is appropriate. When people look at the crowd and see that no one else is reacting, it sends a signal that perhaps no action is needed.
So what can you do to avoid falling into this trap of inaction? Some psychologists suggest that simply being aware of this tendency is perhaps the greatest way to break the cycle. When faced with a situation that requires action, understanding how the bystander effect might be holding you back and consciously taking steps to overcome it can help. However, this does not mean you should place yourself in danger.
But what if you are the person in need of assistance? How can you inspire people to lend a hand? One often-recommended tactic is to single out one person from the crowd. Make eye contact and ask that individual specifically for help. By personalizing and individualizing your request, it becomes much harder for people to turn you down.

The Bystander Effect
Passage outline	Supporting details
Concept of the bystander effect	The bystander effect occurs when the presence of others keeps an individual from becoming______ in an emergency situation. It is obvious that the bystander effect can greatly influence______behavior.
Typical example	In 1964, a young woman named Genovese met with violence and her life was _________ outside her apartment, while bystanders who observed the crime did not step in to assist or call the police.
_________ for the bystander effect	Individuals are less likely to take action or feel a sense of _________ in front of a large group of people. Before deciding to offer help, observers may want to make_________ that it is appropriate to react. Besides, there is a natural __________ for people to follow the crowd before the situation is clear.
________ of the bystander effect	You should realize or know the _________of the bystander effect and take measures to get rid of it. When in need of help, you should_________ one from the crowd, which Will increase your chance of getting your request across and being helped.

Things You Should Insist on No Matter What People Say
Life can get pretty crazy at times．Happiness is dependent upon ourselves，and there are some things in life you should always insist on doing，no matter what others have to say about it．Here is a list of some things you should always do．
1．Learn from your mistakes
No matter what people say，you will make mistakes in your life．Life is a learning process in itself．Some people will make you feel bad about your mistakes，or insult you for making them．Accept your mistakes fully and really figure out what went wrong．
2．Embrace change and creativity
A popular proverb is，“You cannot solve a problem in the same state of consciences that created it．” Change and creativity are vital in today’s world．Things are always changing，so why should we be any different?
3．Appreciate what you have
This can take away from our happiness．Sometimes you just need to sit back and be happy about where your life is right now，and what you have to show for it. Sure people might tell you it’s not good enough，but don’t listen to them．It is good enough，and it gives you a sense of pride when you can enjoy the things you already have in life．
4．Listen to your heart
Sometimes you just need to follow your instincts and do what your heart tells you. There are some situations，like relationships，that rely more on your heart than on your head．People will surely tell you differently，but you should always insist on listening to what you want and feel. Again，you are the one who lives with your choices，and you are the one that has to live with the“what ifs．”

“We see lots of adults being diagnosed as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) (多动症) around age 38,” says Timothy Widens, MD, an professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. “That’s right around the time people start doing more-tasks, juggling jobs, families, a home, and other personal duties，” he says.
But not everyone who slacks on work or forgets appointments has ADHD; there are plenty of other reasons you may be losing attentions. Here are five things that could be sucking your attention span dry.
1. Technology overload
Your computer, cell phone, and iPod all compete for your attention—no wonder you're distracted(心烦意乱)! To a certain point, your brain can act as secretary, keeping you organized and helping with time management. But the more tasks you try to do, the harder it is for you to stay focused on any single task, research shows. Learning basic organizational skills, like writing down responsibilities and maintaining a day planner, can help reduce these problems. So take a break from constant television, Internet, and email floods
2. Lack of sleep
If you’re missing out on enough shut-eye—most likely seven to eight hours a night—you’re probably easy-angry, dealing with mind fog, and have difficulty addressing daily tasks. That’s a normal reaction, says Dr. Widens.
3. Poor job satisfaction
Sure, everyone’s unhappy at work from time to time—maybe your customer presentation failed or your boss gave you a poor performance review. And if a disorganized working environment or a boring project make it difficult to focus, that's completely normal. But if you find that you often can't complete projects，you probably need medical attention, or a new job.
4. Too much stress
Stress takes side affects on concentration. Researchers at the University of Madison found that the relaxation technique can add to your ability to focus on your mind. Another study, from researchers at UCLA, suggests that in adults with ADHD, meditation improves attention and eases symptoms of anxiety and depression.
5. Too little exercise
Mounting evidence suggests that regular exercise can keep your mind sharp and increase learning and memory ability. It’s even more important in adults with ADHD. ” My patients who exercise all report that they see improvement in attention,” says Dr. Widens. Working up a sweat can also help you burn off the extra energy that causes you to feel uncomfortable, and it can help you sleep better at night.
Hopefully after you understand these helpful methods, you become more attentive on what you are doing.

Reasons that You Lose
Passage outline	Supporting details
The of the passage	To tell us we can improve our concentration by following the five things.
Technology overload	Your computer, cell phone, and iPod all compete for your attention—no wonder you're distracted! So yourself away from constant television, Internet, and email inundation— just for a break.
Lack of sleep	If you’re missing out on enough shut-eye, you areto be easy-angry, dealing with mind fog, and have difficulty solving daily tasks.
Poor job	Everyone’s unhappy at work from time to time. When in a disorganized environment or on a boring project, you find it difficult for you to complete projects.
Too much stress	Stress takes side effects on concentration. Relaxing yourself can your ability to focus on your mind.
Too little exercise	Mounting evidence suggests that regular exercise can keep your mind sharp and increase learning and memory.
	After these helpful methods, you are wished to be more attentive on what you are doing.

Descriptions of dreams	_________ to dreams
Falling	You have something to fear or ________ about. You ________ in something like schooling or work.
Taking an exam (or forgetting that you have one)	You’re being tested about something or facing something ________.
Flying	You’re able to control _________matters to you. You believe in yourself and think you can _________ anyone and anything.
Trying to run, but going ________	You’re trying to do too many things at a _________, which prevents you from_________ forward.
Conclusion: We can come up with_________ about some dreams, but not all the dreams.