Why do young adult children become independent so much later than they did in 1970，when the average age of independent living was ? Why have reduced class sizes and increased per-pupil expenditures (花销）not 36 higher academic achievement levels? Why is the mental health of today’s kids so poor when with that of children in the 1960s and before? Why do today’s become defensive when told by teachers that their children have misbehaved in school?
The answer in two words: parental . Those two words best summarize the between “old” child raising and new, post-1960s parenting. Then, the overall philosophy was that parents were not to be involved with their kids. They were available crisis, but they stood a (an) distance from their kids and allowed them to experience the benefits of the trial-and-error process. It was the child’s , back then, to keep his or her parents from getting involved. That was children learned to be responsible and determined.
Today’s parents help their kids with almost everything. These are parents who are when it comes to an understanding of their purpose in their kids’ lives. Their involvement leads them to personalize everything that happens to their kids; , the defensiveness. But given that schools and mental health professionals have been pushing parent involvement for nearly four decades, the confusion and defensiveness are .
University researchers analyzed three decades of data relating to parent participation in children’s academics. Their conclusions what I’ve been saying since the 1980s: parental help with homework a child’s academic achievement and is not reflected on standardized tests.
Parents who manage a child’s social life interfere with the of good social skills. Parents who manage a child’s after-school activities grow kids who don’t know how to their own free time. Parents who get involved in their kids, with peers grow kids who don’t know how to avoid much less trouble.
These kids have anxieties and fears of all sorts and don’t want to leave their . And their parents, when the time comes, don’t know how to being parents. You can imagine what will become of their fu ture.
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Annie, a neighbor’s daughter, was away for her first semester at college this school year. She is a very sweet girl but just a bit shy. When her birthday came around, I found out she was feeling a bit .
Her family is quite poor and are tight, so there wouldn’t be any birthday visitors. I wanted to her a card and maybe a small gift to her day a bit. I got her school from her mom and planned to pick something up. Then I got a(n) !
I perhaps a bit more birthday cheer was needed here. I bought some balloons, birthday hats, and novelties at a store. I took a small and asked three other people in my area at work to “Happy Birthday” and send some birthday wishes to her. It was such fun making the recording! Other people what we were doing and their voices, so it really sounded like we had a party going on!
Then I bought her a small present and a card as planned. The real fun was packing them to be sent. I everything so it was like opening a mini birthday party! At the last minute I added a pack of cupcakes and a box of birthday candles sending them off. I got a call a few days later．Annie said her roommates and one of their neighbors in the got together with her and held a party for her the moment they arrived. She sounded so and I was so glad that she had some friends to her special day with.
It was such an easy and thing to do. The people who helped me make the tape still laugh and talk about it. And Annie me it was the most fun birthday she would remember!
A．lonely B．nervous C．happy D．bored
A．thoughts B．finances C．measures D．times
A．provide B．sell C．send D．draw
A．attract B．remember C．describe D．brighten
A．number B．campus C．address D．report
A．idea B．surprise C．chance D．message
A．decided B．thought C．wished D．concluded
A．another B．others C．other D．one
A．radio B．camera C．recorder D．phone
A．say B．sing C．repeat D．make
A．took out B．set out C．gave out D．found out
A．added B．devoted C．cleared D．lifted
A．suddenly B．originally C．finally D．carefully
A．collected B．paid C．arranged D．expected
A．until B．after C．unless D．before
A．dormitory B．home C．classroom D．office
A．familiar B．happy C．wonderful D．upset
A．help B．compare C．share D．witness
A．hard B．challenging C．fun D．time-consuming
A．warned B．convinced C．advised D．told
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阅读下面短文，从短文后各题的四个选项（A、B、C和D）中，选出可以填入空白处的最佳选项，并在答题卡上将该选项涂黑。
John’s parents acquired the washer when he was a small boy. It happened during World War II. His family never a washing machine and, since gasoline was expensive, they could not trips to the laundry (洗衣店) several miles away. Keeping clothes became a problem for young John’s household.
A family friend joined the army, and his wife to go with him. John’s family to store their furniture while they were away. To the family’s , the friend suggested they use their Bendix. So this is how they the washer.
Young John helped with the washing, and across the years he a love for the old, green Bendix. But the war ended. When the friends came to take it back, John grew terribly . His mother him and said. “You must remember, that machine belonged to us in the first place. That we ever got to use it at all was a gift. So, instead of being mad at it being taken , let’s use this to be grateful that we had it at all.”
The lesson turned out . Years later, John watched his eight-year-old daughter die a slow and painful death of leukemia(白血病). Though he for months with her death, John could not begin getting over from the until he remembered the old Bendix.
His daughter was a . When he realized the simple fact, everything changed. He could now begin recovering from the death of his daughter. He started to see her as a marvelous gift that he was fortunate enough to for a time. He felt . He found strength and recovery. He knew he could get through the valley of loss.
A．required B．owned C．repaired D．saw
A．take B．have C．afford D．ride
A．clean B．warm C．nice D．good
A．agreed B．managed C．desired D．prepared
A．offered B．decided C．expected D．promised
A．disappointed B．astonishment C．sadness D．regret
A．bought B．got C．borrowed D．used
A．achieved B．produced C．developed D．reduced
A．finally B．obviously C．immediately D．peacefully
A．frightened B．upset C．hopeless D．confused
A．explained B．encouraged C．comforted D．taught
A．once B．already C．hardly D．never
A．out B．down C．away D．up
A．chance B．success C．event D．treasure
A．important B．necessary C．reasonable D．invaluable
A．thought B．missed C．struggled D．forgot
A．lesson B．loss C．illness D．difficulty
A．death B．washer C．gift D．loser
A．share B．spend C．live D．earn
A．grateful B．energetic C．relaxed D．happy
A thief dropped a winning lottery ticket (彩票) at the scene of his crime, but he has been given a lesson in .The man whom he robbed (抢劫) the ticket and won the $25,000 prize, but he managed to find the thief, and handed over the .
The robbery happened when Professor Sabbatucci was changing a tyre (轮胎) on a highway. Another motorist, who stopped to “, stole a suitcase from his car and drove off. The professor found the ticket and put it in his pocket before home.
Next day, the professor saw the lottery on TV and realized it was a winner. He the $25,000 prize. Then began a with his conscience (良心). In the end, he decided he could not keep the money he had been robbed. He then put a in newspapers and made an announcement on the radio, : “I’m trying to find the man who robbed me. I have $25,000 for him — a lottery . Please meet me.”
The professor received hundreds of from people who were hoping to him into handing them the cash. But there was one voice he and he arranged to meet the man in a park.
The robber gave back the and burst into tears. He could not what was happening. Why didn’t you the money?” he asked. The professor replied: “I couldn’t because it’s not mine.” Then he walked off, turning down the thief’s to share the prize.
A．friendship B．honesty C．bravery D．adventure
A．sent B．took out C．bought D．picked up
A．crime B．ticket C．]cash D．evidence
A．repair B．rest C．watch D．help
A．left B．dropped C．forgotten D．damaged
A．running B．walking C．driving D．riding
A．results B．story C．loss D．sales
A．presented B．took C．donated D．shared
A．battle B．business C．lecture D．quarrel
A．since B．while C．even though D．as if
A．review B．request C．show D．notice
A．joking B．saying C．wondering D．replying
A．number B．luck C．win D．receipt
A．notes B．emails C．letters D．calls
A．trick B．persuade C．lead D．draw
A．recognized B．remembered C．recorded D．recovered
A．car B．suitcase C．money D．check
A．imagine B．blame C．believe D．realize
A．keep B．return C．give D．earn
A．deal B．promise C．payment D．offer
Perhaps because I was city kid, my exposure to wildlife was limited. That when I moved to the wooded hills of Oregon many years later. For the first time, I animal communities.
One evening, a nursing raccoon (浣熊) with four kids . She extended her tiny paw asking for some food. I was attracted by their cuteness, so I put out a serving of fresh cat food and water. She the next evening. And the next.
All was well until the wildlife began behaving . The raccoons started crying noisily. They could be throughout the entire valley. A few days later, our homeowners association (业主协会) newsletter arrived in the mail. Among the announcements of garage sales came a gentle reminder that feeding the wildlife was not a(n) thing to do.
My face became red with as I read the letter. I’d been found out! I was now identified as the maker!
I went downstairs to discuss the matter with my husband. “I’m not that the association has come up with a policy about it. They must have gotten ,” he said.
“OK, I’m going to feeding the animals,” I said.
Although I told myself that the wildlife around me would without cat food, I felt guilty. Late that night, I walked slowly into the kitchen for a snack. Then a scene outside my attention: There, on the hillside, was my neighbor. She was two deer in the cold.
Another animal , I thought. Even well-intentioned neighborhood associations can’t control our human impulse (冲动) to with wild creatures and the natural world.
A．happened B．grew C．changed D．started
A．built B．met C．caught D．ignored
A．appeared B．waited C．shouted D．slept
A．even if B．only if C．if only D．as if
A．secretly B．instantly C．directly D．suddenly
A．remained B．left C．settled D．returned
A．wildly B．politely C．stupidly D．naturally
A．seen B．recognized C．heard D．hunted
A．special B．usual C．simple D．exact
A．suitable B．noble C．valuable D．enjoyable
A．disappointment B．embarrassment C．sadness D．eagerness
A．decision B．tool C．trouble D．policy
A．surprised B．satisfied C．delighted D．concerned
A．requirements B．expectations C．agreements D．complaints
A．stop B．keep C．delay D．consider
A．survive B．practice C．suffer D．compete
A．escaped B．attracted C．deserved D．avoided
A．pulling B．washing C．protecting D．feeding
A．trainer B．watcher C．lover D．owner
A．connect B．play C．live D．work
Dad was always full of advice. One of the biggest lessons he taught me one summer was about having a strong__ _ethic(道德规范). When my brother and I were growing up, we mowed(除草) yards during the summer to_ pocket money.
Every time we went to work, Dad was there to _ _. I used to wonder __ he came with us. He stood watching our work in the_ _weather when he could have been inside relaxing with air conditioning.
One day we were _ _our neighbor’s yard. She always_ _ until the grass was knee-high to call us over. That afternoon, I was finishing up and was_ . I was just about to_ _the mower when I saw Dad pointing to some_ . I thought about how little I was getting paid for cutting grass so _ _it almost broke the mower. I _ _him and kept walking. Dad called me out, “you missed a piece.” I frowned, __ he would go home. He kept __ . So worn out and discouraged, I went back to cut that piece of grass. I said to myself: “That one piece isn’t __ anyone. Why won’t he just let it go ?Other neighbors_ _ the good work we did and soon got more_ _. we start out with one client, but by the end of the summer we had five.
The lesson my dad taught me stayed with me: be _ . If you say you are going to perform a job at a certain time, keep your _ . Give your customers the kind of service you would like to _ _. It shows how sincere you are and how much pride you take in your work.
A．work B．family C．neighbor D．academy
A．save B．share C．earn D．borrow
A．watch B．teach C．help D．perform
A．how B．whether C．when D．why
A．rainy B．snowy C．hot D．warm
A．visiting B．cutting C．cleaning D．digging
A．decided B．prepared C．stopped D．waited
A．excited B．confused C．frightened D．tired
A．pay for B．throw away C．turn off D．try out
A．people B．stones C．grass D．water
A．strange B．thick C．different D．high
A．ignored B．forgot C．comforted D．thanked
A．pretending B．admitting C．hoping D．believing
A．going B．pointing C．shaking D．disturbing
A．hurting B．cheating C．killing D．welcoming
A．took care of B．took advantage of C．took notice of D．took hold of
A．luck B．information C．business D．advice
A．ordinary B．professional C．smart D．bright
A．space B．peace C．word D．need
A．offer B．receive C．provide D．exchange