When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly 36 to your physical and 37 health.
"People who forgive 38 less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness," says Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., 39 of Forgive for Good. "So it can help 40 on the .wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and 41 people to feel more vital."
So how do you start the forgiveness? Try 42 these steps:
Calm yourself. To defuse (缓解) your 43 and try a simple stress-management technique.
"Take a couple of breaths and think of 44 that gives you pleasure: a 45 scene in nature, someone you love," Luskin says.
Don’t 46 an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you has no 47 of apologizing," Luskin says. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same 48 . So if you wait for people to apologize ,you could be waiting a(n) 49 long time. "Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean 50 to the person who upsets you.
Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying your 51 gives power to the person who caused you pain. " 52 of focusing on your hurt feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness 53 you," Luskin says.
Try to see things from the other person’s perspective (立场；视角). If you empathize (有同感) with that person, you may 54 that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear even love.
Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better 55 and better sleep patterns. Don’t forget to forgive yourself. "For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge," Luskin says.
"But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don’t do it. "
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A．chemical B．wealthy C．technical D．mental
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A．author B．owner C．professor D．publisher
A．insist B．save C．wait D．depend
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A．forget B．realize C．announce D．doubt
A．housing B．salary C．safety D．appetite
When Mary Moore began her high school in 1951, her mother told her, “Be sure and take a typing course so when this show business thing doesn’t work out, you’ll have something to rely on.” Mary responded in typical teenage fashion. From that moment on, “the very last thing I ever thought about doing was taking a typing course,” she recalls.
The show business thing worked out, of course. In her career, Mary won many awards. Only recently, when she began to write Growing Up Again, did she regret ignoring her mom. “I don’t know how to use a computer,” she admits.
Unlike her 1995 autobiography, After All, her second book is less about life as an award-winning actress and more about living with diabetes (糖尿病). All the money from the book is intended for the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF), an organization she serves as international chairman. “I felt there was a need for a book like this,” she says. “I didn’t want to lecture, but I wanted other diabetics to know that things get better when we’re self-controlled and do our part in managing the disease.”
But she hasn’t always practiced what she teaches. In her book, she describes that awful day, almost 40 years ago, when she received two pieces of life-changing news. First, she had lost the baby she was carrying, and second, tests showed that she had diabetes. In a childlike act, she left the hospital and treated herself to a box of doughnuts (甜甜圈). Years would pass before she realized she had to grow up－again－and take control of her diabetes, not let it control her. Only then did she kick her three-pack-a-day cigarette habit, overcome her addiction to alcohol, and begin to follow a balanced diet.
Although her disease has affected her eyesight and forced her to the sidelines of the dance floor, she refuses to fall into self-pity. “Everybody on earth can ask, ‘why me?’ about something or other,” she insists. “It doesn’t do any good. No one is immune (免疫的) to heartache, pain, and disappointments. Sometimes we can make things better by helping others. I’ve come to realize the importance of that as I’ve grown up this second time. I want to speak out and be as helpful as I can be.”
Why did Mary feel regretful?
A．She didn’t achieve her ambition. B．She didn’t take care of her mother. C．She didn’t complete her high school. D．She didn’t follow her mother’s advice.
A．had two books published B．received many career awards C．knew how to use a computer D．supported the JDRF by writing
A．living with diabetes B．successful show business C．service for an organization D．remembrance of her mother
A．lost control of herself B．began a balanced diet C．tried to get a treatment D．behaved in an adult way
A．Mary feels pity for herself. B．Mary has recovered from her disease. C．Mary wants to help others as much as possible. D．Mary determines to go back to the dance floor.
Another person’s enthusiasm was what set me moving toward the success I have achieved. That person was my stepmother.
I was nine years old when she entered our home in rural Virginia. My father me to her with these words: “I would like you to meet the fellow who is for being the worst boy in this county and will probably start throwing rocks at you no than tomorrow morning.”
My stepmother walked over to me, my head slightly upward, and looked me right in the eye. Then she looked at my father and replied,“You are . This is not the worst boy at all, the smartest one who hasn’t yet found an outlet（释放的途径）for his enthusiasm.”
That statement began a(n) between us. No one had ever called me smart. My family and neighbors had built me up in my as a bad boy . My stepmother changed all that.
She changed many things. She my father to go to a dental school, from which he graduated with honors. She moved our family into the county seat, where my father’s career could be more and my brother and I could be better .
When I turned fourteen, she bought me a secondhand and told me that she believed that I could become a writer. I knew her enthusiasm, I it had already improved our lives. I accepted her and began to write for local newspapers. I was doing the same kind of that great day I went to interview Andrew Carnegie and received the task which became my life’s work later. I wasn’t the beneficiary (受益者). My father became the man in town. My brother and stepbrothers became a physician, a dentist, a lawyer, and a college president.
What power has! When that power is released to support the certainty of one’s purpose and is strengthened by faith, it becomes an irresistible（不可抗拒的）force which poverty and temporary defeat can never .
You can communicate that power to anyone who needs it. This is probably the greatest work you can do with your enthusiasm.
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A．distinguished B．favored C．mistaken D．rewarded
A．sooner B．later C．longer D．earlier
A．dragged B．shook C．raised D．bent
A．perfect B．right C．wrong D．impolite
A．but B．so C．and D．or
A．agreement B．friendship C．gap D．relationship
A．opinion B．image C．expectation D．mind
A．begged B．persuaded C．ordered D．invited
A．successful B．meaningful C．helpful D．useful
A．treated B．entertained C．educated D．respected
A．camera B．radio C．bicycle D．typewriter
A．considered B．suspected C．ignored D．appreciated
A．belief B．request C．criticism D．description
A．teaching B．writing C．studying D．reading
A．next B．same C．only D．real
A．cleverest B．wealthiest C．strongest D．healthiest
A．enthusiasm B．sympathy C．fortune D．confidence
A．deliberately B．happily C．traditionally D．constantly
A．win B．match C．reach D．doubt
Starting a new book is a risk, just like falling in love. You have to ____ to it. You open the pages knowing a little bit about it, maybe from the back or from a blurb（宣传信息）on the front. But who ____, right? Those bits and pieces aren’t always right.
Sometimes people ____ themselves as one thing and then when you get deep into it you realize that they’re something completely different. Either there was some good marketing ____ to a terrible book, or the story was only explained in a(n) ____ way and once you reach the middle of the book, you realize there’s so much more to this book than anyone could ever have told you.
You start off slow. The story is beginning to ____. You’re unsure. It’s a big commitment reading this tome(巨著). Maybe this book won’t be that great but you’ll feel ____ about putting it down. Maybe it’ll be so awful you’ll set it down immediately and never pick it up again. Or maybe you’ll come back to it some night, drunk or lonely—needing something to ____ the time, but it won’t be any better than it was when you first started reading it.
Maybe you’re ____. You’ve read tons of books before. Maybe you’ve taken some time off from reading because the last few books you read just weren’t ____ it. Do they even write new, great works of literature anymore? Maybe it’s a once in a lifetime feeling and you’re never going to find it again.
Or something ____ could happen. Maybe this will become your new favorite book. There’s always a possibility, right? That’s the ____ of risk. You ____ your time and your brain power in the words and what you get back is a new understanding and pure wonder.
How could someone possibly know you like this? Some stranger, some author, some character. It’s like they’re seeing inside your ____. This book existed inside some book store, on a shelf, maybe handled by other people and really it was just ____ for you to pick it up. It was waiting to speak to you. To say, “You are not ____.”
You just want more of the story. You want to keep reading, maybe everything this author has ever ____. You wish it would never end. The closer it gets to the smaller side of the pages, the ____ you read, wanting to savor(品味) it all. This book is now one of your favorites forever. You will always wish you could go back to ____ having read it and pick it up fresh again, but also you know you’re better for having this close, inside you, ____ your heart and mind.
Reading a book is just like falling in love. Once you get in deep enough, you know you could never put this book down.
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A．tells B．cares C．writes D．knows
A．advertise B．believe C．behave D．mistake
A．attached B．compared C．used D．related
A．artificial B．superficial C．theoretical D．confidential
A．repeat B．change C．conflict D．unfold
A．worried B．content C．guilty D．serious
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A．soul B．book C．body D．eyes
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A．always B．ever C．once D．never
A．covering B．breaking C．separating D．blocking
Tears went out of my eyes when I talked to my parents on the phone. What were they doing when I them? This is what I want to know most. I had supper at five in the dining room. There is no need for me to cook and wash the dishes. , now it is the time for my parents. Dad works from seven in the morning to nine in the evening. , all of the housework is to my mum alone. She also has to work in the vineyard(葡萄园) her own job.
Every day she at 4 o’clock in the morning, and then works till dark. One day I called her at 7:30 in the evening. She told me she was in the vineyard and hadn’t had supper yet. Tears ran down my cheeks.
Dear mum, I’ll study hard in the university because I am your . I’ll look after myself because I am to you. I promise you so much but I want you to promise me you will tend yourself and Dad because you are like my blood. I cannot without you.
Mum has ever said that the happiest time for Dad and her is when my sister and I come home. We play cards in the room, watch TV or do else we like, with Dad and Mum delicious food in the kitchen. It is the happiest time for me. I could all the difficulties and unhappiness. The thing to do is to enjoy the time with my parents.
, sometimes, doesnt need many words. Love your parents as they love you. Give them a and tell them you them.
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A．However B．Indeed C．Instead D．Anyway
A．happiest B．busiest C．hardest D．easiest
A．Actually B．Therefore C．Generally D．Unfortunately
A．passed B．handed C．returned D．left
A．but B．except C．without D．besides
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A．yet B．already C．even D．still
A．wish B．expectation C．hope D．desire
A．important B．necessary C．only D．single
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One cold afternoon a postman was slowly pushing his mail cart (邮车)____the hill that led out of the small town of lane.He was walking very____because there was a lot of ice on the____.He had only one more letter to deliver(传递), and this was for an old lady who lived at the____.Everybody____her “grandma”．
She had lived alone____her daughter had____to Hawaii many years before.She used to invite the postman____for coffee whenever he____her letter, and she would tell him about her two grandchildren in Hawaii，whom she had____seen.However, she had lots of____of them, which she used to____him.
Just as the____came near her gate，a small boy came____down the hill.Suddenly the boy slipped on the ice and fell.The postman stopped his mail cart and hurried____the street to help the boy.After a quick____，he saw that he had hurt his leg very badly.In fact, he was____that the boy's leg had been broken. He knew that “grandma” did not have a____，so he stopped a____driver and asked him to____the boy to Lance Hospital.
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