Don’t get mad--- get promoted
When it comes to succeeding at work, conventional wisdom says you should check your emotions at the door. But Anne Kreamer, the author of the new book It’s Always Personal, disagrees. “It reduces people’s ability to bring their best selves to their work,” she says. ___1___ Here’s how to turn your emotions into opportunities.
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How to get promoted: Engage in joint（联合的）problem solving.
Losing your temper at work is “universally uncool,” say Kreamer. But opening your emotional floodgates strategically can lead to solutions if both sides are willing to work together. ___3___ “The specific time and private space establishes boundaries so you have a greater chance of achieving a constructive outcome and maintaining the relationship,” Kreamer adds.
I feel: Afraid and anxious.
How to get promoted: Improve planning skills.
___4___ Identify what’s behind your fear and take specific action --- ask your manager for details and take on some responsibilities. You’ll calm down and do a better job. “No boss minds helping an eager employee learn something new, but every boss hates having to deal with a bungled（搞糟了的） project,” says Kreamer.
I feel: Happy.
How to get promoted: Increase creativity and productivity.
When you’re in a positive mood, your brain activity actually shifts, says Kreamer. “Your focus deepens, and your dopamine（多巴胺） levels increase. ___5___”
| A．I feel: Angry. |
| B．I feel: like crying. |
| C．This helps you see things from a different perspective. |
| D．It’s a signal that there’s a problem that needs to be solved. |
E. Are you clear about an assignment or underprepared for a meeting?
F. Instead, Kreamer suggests acting on your feelings can help you do a good job.
G. Rather than face the offender in the heat of the moment, schedule a one-on-one meeting.
Let’s say you have had a sore throat for several weeks . You have done everything you can to relieve (减轻）the pain: medicine, Vitamin C, and even chicken soup. All these things help your throat feel better for a little while, but the soreness always comes back.Your doctor discovers that you have tonsillitis (扁桃体炎）, and that is causing your sore throat ! If you have your tonsils removed, your sore throat will go away for good.
Anger is a lot like that. It is great to find healthy, positive ways to deal with feelings of anger , but sometimes you really just need to get to the root of the problem. There is no way to get rid of everything that makes us angry.
If you can identify (确认）what exactly is making you feel angry, and then work to fix it , you may find that you get angry a lot less often.
•Instead of giving in to your feelings , maybe it is time to get some help in the subject so you can do better next time.
•Are you angry because your friends leave you out of things?If they can’t be sensitive to your feelings, then maybe it is time to look for new friends.
| A．But we can deal with issues one at a time. |
| B．What is the source of your anger ? |
| C．Finally, you decide it is time to see a doctor. |
| D．Are you angry that you failed a test at school? |
E.Try talking to them about how it makes you feel.
F.Keeping anger inside usually just makes it worse.
G.Being angry can make it hard to be around other people.
Online Friends and Love
In so many ways, cyberspace mirrors the real world. 1 . Others buy and sell products. Still others look for friendship, or even love. Unlike the real world, however, your knowledge about a person is limited to words on a computer screen. Identity (身份) and appearance mean very little in cyberspace. 2 . So even the shyest person can become a chat-room star. Usually, this “faceless” communication doesn’t create problems. Identity doesn’t really matter when you’re in a chat room discussing politics or hobbies and it makes the Internet a great place for exciting conversation. Where else can so many people come together to chat about their interests? 3 . They’re looking for serious love relationships. Is cyberspace a good place to find love? That answer depends on whom you ask. Some of these relationships actually succeed. Others fail miserably.
Supporter of online relationships claim that the Internet allows couples to get to know each other. Personal appearance doesn’t get in the way. But critics of online relationships argue that no one can truly know another person in cyberspace. Why? 4 . Internet users can carefully make their words fit whatever image they want to give. In a sense, they’re not really themselves. All of this may be fine if the relationship stays in cyberspace. 5 . With so many unknowns, it’s easy to let one’s imagination “fill in the blanks”. This leads to disappointment when couples meet in person. So, before looking for love in cyberspace, remember the advice of Internet pioneer Clifford Stoll: “Life in the real world is far richer than anything you’ll find on a computer screen.”
| A．When we talk with others on the line, we can express ourselves freely. |
| B．But some Internet users want more than just someone to chat with. |
| C．People ask for information, play games and share hobby tips. |
| D．Generally speaking, online friends and love are worth seeking for. |
E.Because the Internet gives users a lot of control over how others view them.
F.Rather, a person’s thoughts or at least the thoughts they type— are what really count.
G.But not knowing a person is a big problem in a love relationship.
A. They admit their mistakes.
B. They are open to criticism.
C. They are willing to learn.
D. They’re in charge of their emotions.
E. They apologize when needed.
F. They are generous with compliments.
We all see and hear about extraordinary people around us and wonder why can’t we be more like them? Sometimes we chuck that notion as absurd and unachievable. I would say not so fast. It’s not the big things that make someone extraordinary. It’s the small things. Things over a period of time have the power to radically change your life. They become extraordinary by making a difference in someone’s life. Here are some of the things extraordinary people do every day: __________
Just because you’re the boss, it doesn’t mean you are right every time. It doesn’t mean you have the best ideas. Learn to back up your ideas or decisions with reason. Use logic to explain things, not authority. By doing this your decisions might invite criticism, but you will also get an opportunity to improve. __________
My friend’s boss made a huge mistake by tying up with an event management company. The whole purpose of the tie-up was to promote his company but it failed miserably. Instead of defending his idea and carrying on as if nothing happened, he apologized to the team for not including them in the decision making. It’s OK to admit you were wrong. You will not only gain the respect of your team mates, you will also gain credibility. __________
Remember the time, say in school or at work when you worked really hard but got nothing in return. Not even a thank you. It hurts when your efforts are not recognized. So every chance you get to praise someone, do it. A simple “That was some great work, keep it up,” can go a long way in making the employee feel great about themselves. A compliment can have a positive impact on their lives. Your team/family will love you for it. __________
We all make mistakes, but what makes a person big is when he is ready to apologize. Don’t try to hide behind excuses: “I didn’t mean to say it, it just happened.” “I was irritated with such and such person so…” No. Don’t try to shift blame. Just come right out and say you’re sorry. __________
Sometimes it is very important to stay mum. Especially when you’re angry or irritated or bitter, you don’t want to end up saying things you didn’t really mean to. So they take their time, they process their emotions, think back to what happened, and then come to a decision about how to tackle it. Before you say anything, consider other’s feelings. Never be rash with words or actions.
请阅读下列应用文及相关信息，并按照要求匹配信息。请在答题卡上将对应题号的相应选项字母涂黑。以下是演讲会的资料：
| A Are you interested in “Dream of the Red Mansion”(Hong Lou Meng)? Listen to a lecture on this classical novel. Venue: National Museum of Chinese Modern Literature (Beijing) Time: 9:30 A.m. Price: free Tel: 010 – 84615522 |
B “Jiaguwen” is among the oldest pictographic characters in the world．How much do you know about it? Get all the answers at this free lecture. Venue: Dongcheng District Library (Beijing) Time: 9:00 a.m. Price: free Tel: 010 – 64013356 |
| C Former United Nations interpreter Professor Wang Ruojin speaks about her experiences at the UN and shares her understanding of the cultural differences between East and West. Venue: National Library of China (Beijing) Time: 1:30 p.m. — 4:00 p. m. Price: free Tel: 010 – 68488047 |
D Qi Baishi, one of China’s greatest modern painters, was also a poet, calligrapher(书法家) and seal-cutter(刻印者). Can you appreciate his works? Then come to spend the time with us. Venue: Beijing Art Academy Time: 9:00 A．m. – 11:00 A．m. Price: 10 Yuan Tel: 010 - 65023390 |
| E It is the year of the Dog, and you can see “Fu” everywhere. But how much do you know about dogs–man’s best friend? What is “Fu” and where does it come from? Why do people hang “Fu” character upside down on the door? Get all the answers from this free lecture. Venue: Capital Library (Beijing) Time: 2:00 p. m. Price: free Tel: 010 - 67358114 |
F About 160 cultural relics from Guangdong, Macao and Hong Kong are on display to April 15th. Meanwhile experts will talk about the important roles these three cities have played in the past two thousand years of Sino–Western exchanges. Venue: Beijing Art Museum Time: 2:00 p. m. – 5:00 p. m. Price: 20 Yuan, students 10 Yuan Tel: 010 - 83659337 |
以下是想去听演讲的人员的基本信息，请匹配适合他们的演讲内容。Alice is now studying in Beijing University, and she is especially interested in Chinese writing. In her spare time she enjoys drawing, writing poems and is fond of sharing her pieces with her classmates.
Simon comes from Egypt. He is now studying in Beijing Art Academy. He shows great interest in Chinese ancient characters. Now he wants to know much about it.
Lora and Peter, visiting professors from Australia, are both crazy about Chinese traditional culture. At weekends they like to call on Chinese families to learn about Chinese festivals as well as their history.
Edward is a senior student in Beijing Foreign Language University. He likes traveling very much and has made up his mind to work as an interpreter for some joint–venture enterprises (合资企业).
Steve and Mark are both studying in the Chinese Department of China’s Renmin University. They want to do some research on Chinese ancient literature.
Raising Confident Kids
Self-esteem(自尊) is a collection of beliefs or feelings we have about ourselves. Having a healthy self-esteem can protect us through difficult times and help us remain focused on what is important to us. Research shows that children with high self-esteem grow up to be more confident adults. Self-esteem building should start from young.
Praise actions
Young children need feedback. It’s how they measure their actions and it plays a role in learning from experience. Provide specific praise about actual actions performed and efforts made in the process. .
Identify strengths
Preschoolers are always watching each other. On the bright side, they learn new things from each other. On the other side, they can become self-critical when they see a peer accomplishing something they still struggle to do.Tell your children to focus on their strengths when they start to draw comparisons.
Foster(培养) a sense of belonging
Young children may not understand how peer pressure (同龄人的压力) works, but they feel it when they’re being excluded(排除). Show your children that they are important by listening to and responding to their needs and ideas. As much as possible, save grown-up conversations for later so that you can have family conversations.
As much as they need us, they also need to work on taking small steps towards independence. When they know they can do things, they feel more confident. Teach problem-solving skills. Step aside and let them work on challenges before jumping in to help. Help by asking, “ How can we do this in a different way? Let’s come up with some ideas together.” Getting kids involved in problem-solving teaches them how to deal with challenges in the future.
Building and maintaining healthy self-esteem can be a lifelong process, but the sooner you start, the more confident your children will become.
| A．Encourage Independence |
| B．Spend quality time with children |
| C．Try to address their concerns as they arise, no matter how minor. |
| D．If praise is only attached to success, kids will focus on “ winning”. |
E. Be sure to point out your children’s strengths regularly and be specific.
F. Below are some tips to help you promote your children’s self-esteem.
G. Each parent has the responsibility to help children to become confident.