Just listen
I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our 36 , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them 39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than 40 it.
One of my patients told me that when she 41 to tell her story, people often 42 to tell her that they had once had something just like what happened to her. Subtly, her pain became a story about themselves. 43 she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45 of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to 46 to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾) 47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them 48 , to take them out of their 49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50 them.
This 51 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been 52 since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too 53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54 to connect than the most well-intentioned(善意的) 55 .
A．introduction B．instruction C．attention D．relaxation
A．head B．memory C．mind D．heart
A．talk to B．listen to C．object to(反对) D．stick to(坚持)
A．in B．up C．off D．away
A．denying(否认) B．remembering C．questioning D．understanding
A．managed B．tried C．hoped D．expected
A．encouraged B．interrupted C．discouraged D．urged
A．Eventually B．Immediately C．Completely D．Especially
A．impolite B．meaningless C．lonely D．selfish
A．middle B．focus C．center D．choice
A．respond B．compare C．link D．regret
A．unless B．if C．until D．when
A．down B．away C．in D．off
A．experiment B．mixture C．judgment D．experience
A．with B．against C．for D．among
A．complex(费解的) B．simple C．single D．complicated(复杂的)
A．mentioned B．published C．taught D．proved
A．shy B．greedy C．active D．proud
A．strength B．energy C．power D．force
A．gestures B．praise C．criticism D．words
There was a very special teacher who made a far –reaching difference in my life.
Fall ,1959,the first day of class at Bethesda Chevy Chase High School was about begin .“Who”，I asked a senior , “is Mrs McNamara,my 10th grade English teacher?”He just _ and said something about my being in ____Soon ,I understood what he meant. Mrs. McNamara had a pattern of ______that she repeated again and again. We would have a literature reading task for__ _. The next day ,when we came to class, there would be two or three topics on the blackboard ________ to the homework reading. We were_______to write an in –class essay about one of the topics. The following day ,she would _____thd corrected and graded essays and each person would be called _____ to stand in front of the class and to _________ his\her essay. The class were required to criticize(评论)that essay, _____the grade of everyone in class would be reduced.
The first time that I___her read–write–criticize method, I had not ______to do the homework and had written something without knowing what it meant. ________the extreme embarrassment I suffered, standing before my classmates, _________myself. No one laughed at me, no one would be ________enough ,or foolish enough, to do that in Mrs. McNamara’s class. The embarrassment came from ________and along with it came a strong ________not to let it happen again.
Mrs. McNamara kept all of our written work in files, it was easy to see the ________in writing that had occurred. What was not so easy to see was the inner transformation that had taken place, at least for me. What Mrs. McNamar___________me to do was to see myself as others see me and, having done that, I could improve myself. And I _______. Thank you, Mrs. McNamara.
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In the United States there was an unusual tale telling of the daughter of a mechanic (技工). One day while walking along the bank of a lake, the girl to see 20 eggs laid by a wild goose. After some time the girl the mother would not return to her eggs and she to take them home. There she carefully the eggs in the heat of a lamp. Several days the eggs broke and the baby geese came into the .
Geese are known to take the first living thing they see as their mother. ，to these young geese, the girl was their mother.
As they , the girl was able to her birds to run across the grass, but she could not teach them to . The girl became increasingly worried about this, both when and in her dreams. later, she had an She would pilot a plane to guide them in . She asked her father for a plane and he assembled (组装) a small aircraft for her.
Caring about safety, the father decided to pilot the plane himself. However, the birds did not or follow him, and slept in the grass.
One day, the girl into the plane, started it and soon left the , Seeing their mother take to the air, the birds flapped (拍打) their wings and . She flew the plane freely in the sky, her young birds following.
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You have waited 45 minutes for the valuable 10 minutes’ break between classes. But when the bell for the next class rings, you can’t how quickly time has passed.
If you are familiar with this , you’ll know how time flies when you are having fun and when you are bored. Now scientists have a reason why this is the case.
Scans have shown that patterns of activity in the brain according to how we focus on a task. When we are , we concentrate more on how time is passing. And this makes our brains the clock is ticking more slowly.
In an experiment by a French laboratory, 12 volunteers watched an image researchers monitored their brain activity.
The volunteers were told to concentrate on how long an image appeared for, then the color of the image, and thirdly, study both duration and color. The results showed that was more active when the volunteers paid subjects.
It is thought that if the brain is focusing on many aspects of a task, it has to its resources, and pays less attention to the clock. , time passes without us really it, and seems to go quickly. If the brain is not so active, it concentrates its energies on monitoring the passing of time. , time seems to drag.
Next time you feel bored , perhaps you should pay more attention to what the teacher is saying!
A．guess B．learn C．believe D．doubt
A．view B．point C．scene D．experience
A．drags B．stops C．backs D．gains
A．thought over B．made up C．suggested D．come up with
A．change B．develop C．grow D．slow
A．sleepy B．bored C．excited D．active
A．report B．think C．decide D．see
A．produced B．carried C．tried D．performed
A．so B．when C．while D．but
A．partly B．quickly C．how D．first
A．remember B．focus on C．forget D．tell apart
A．the researchers B．the experiment C．the clock D．the brain
A．much attention to B．more attention to C．attention to many D．attention to more
A．busy B．likely C．ready D．sure
A．focus B．gather C．reach D．spread
A．However B．Furthermore C．Therefore D．Finally
A．recognizing B．watching C．noticing D．counting
A．enough B．full C．right D．proper
A．In fact B．As a result C．For example D．Instead
A．in class B．with work C．in mind D．of lessons
When Danny Bowman was at school, he was so crazy to attract girls. He spent 10 hours a day more than 200 selfies (自拍) trying to find the one.
He would take 10 photos of before he washed and would go class secretly three times every hour. At 16, he dropped out of school he could throw himself into his addiction (上瘾) , and he ate . He did not leave his house for six months, and when he failed to take the perfect picture, he tried to himself by taking an overdose (过度用药). His mother, Penny, to save him, and forced him to ask for help after his addiction had become .
The 19-year-old, believed to be Britain's first selfie , is now under special treatment . He has not taken a picture of himself in seven months and has that achieving perfection is . He told the Sunday Mirror, “I was constantly the perfect selfie and when I realized I couldn’t, I wanted to die. I my friends, my education, my health and almost my life. The only thing I about was having my phone with me so that I could satisfy the desire for a picture of myself at any time of the day.” He expressed his to the doctors and said their help kept him and called on others to ask for help they ended up in hospital.
One psychologist at a clinic Danny was treated said the addiction to taking selfies has now become a mental illness.
A．making B．taking C．having D．getting
A．perfect B．beautiful C．good D．comfortable
A．others B．his teacher C．the classroom D．himself
A．into B．out of C．inside D．away
A．so that B．because C．but D．as if
A．more B．nothing C．less D．everything
A．surprise B．calm C．kill D．thank
A．managed B．decided C．failed D．succeeded
A．under control B．out of control C．in order D．out of date
A．winner B．loser C．killer D．addict
A．in hospital B．at home C．at school D．at work
A．expected B．realized C．imagined D．recognized
A．impossible B．possible C．necessary D．unpleasant
A．in need of B．in want of C．in search of D．in favor of
A．missed B．left C．lost D．got
A．cared B．worried C．dreamed D．talked
A．happiness B．regret C．thanks D．sadness
A．wise B．wealthy C．patient D．alive
A．after B．until C．while D．before
A．when B．where C．which D．how
Although one might not agree because of some of the criticism of it, advertising is essential to the kind of society in which people in the United Kingdom, and a very proportion of the world live. Advertising is necessary as a of communicating with others, of telling them about the goods and services that are offered, and of which most of them would never to hear at all if it were not for advertising. And advertising helps a great deal to promote a standard of living.
In talking about advertising, one should not think only a commercial on television, or an advertisement in the newspapers or periodicals. In its widest , advertising includes a host of other such as packaging, shop displays and--in the sense of communication--even the spoken word of the salesman. , the roots of advertising are to be found in the market place.
For many years it was thought that it was enough to goods and supply services, it is only more that it has become increasingly understood that the production of goods is a waste of resources those goods can be sold at a fair price within a time span. In the competitive society in which we live, it is essential that we go out and sell what we have to offer, and advertising plays an important role in this respect, whether selling at home or in markets.
Approximately 2 percent of the UK gross national product (GDP) is spent on advertising. But it must not be thought that this advertising tries to sell goods to consumers who do not want them. Of course, advertising does try to attract the interest of the consumer, but if the articles when does not match up to the standards that the advertising suggests that it will, it is obviously exceedingly unlikely that the article will sell well.
A．enjoyable B．considerable C．agreeable D．knowledgeable
A．data B．proportion C．means D．message
A．get B．put C．find D．avoid
A．demanding B．raising C．declining D．rising
A．in honor of B．in case of C．in terms of D．in favor of
A．sense B．border C．level D．extent
A．conferences B．activities C．matters D．actions
A．Of all B．In all C．Above all D．After all
A．protest B．program C．process D．produce
A．quickly B．immediately C．recently D．totally
A．unless B．though C．until D．when
A．inevitable B．comfortable C．reasonable D．available
A．country B．import C．job D．export
A．financial B．potential C．essential D．social
A．presented B．purchased C．responded D．respected